Better than Wild Sex

Better than Wild Sex

I know two women who are missing out on the best potential time of their lives. They are looking after their elderly husbands. Many years ago, each married a man who was around twenty years older than they were. At the time, each woman was not coping well alone. Their husbands provided much needed emotional and financial security.

For around thirty years, the marriages survived and were reasonably happy, but in recent years there has been a change. The men grew old and became ill. Both men were successful in their businesses, seeing themselves as strong, protective and capable. Now they are struggling to cope with their physical demise. Their wives describe them as weak, needy and demanding. Both women are tired, frustrated and resentful. They hate looking after these men who once looked after them.

Blanche d’Alpuget didn’t miss out. She was the main carer of her husband, Bob Hawke, the former prime minister, nursing him during the last year of his life when he was at his weakest.

After his death, she said the joy of mature love involves great softness and intimacy with no pretence or secrets, and that she found it wonderful to look after the one she loved.

We often said to each other that we’ve been blessed to have this period together.

 [It has been] the most tender and intimate of our whole lives. For me [our relationship ranged from] the wild excitement of sexual ecstasy to the great tenderness of looking after a person who was completely dependent upon me. And there is much greater intimacy, actually, in looking after somebody who is in that ­debilitated state than there is in even the wildest sex.

Some people might find it difficult to believe that caring for a loved one can be so gratifying. But I have come across this before in my clients. Some feel like this in their current lives and some have felt it about their past lives. One of the latter is Lorraine.

In the regression, Lorraine re-lived a past life in America as a man, Jimmy, who married in mid-life. Three years after they married, his wife, Maddy, fell off a horse and was crippled.

She is sitting in a rocking chair and I am bringing her iced tea on a platter. I am the carer. I just want to look after her because she is so brave, and I love her so much. We didn’t have any children and we really wanted them. There is a sadness about that in her.

I am looking at the sunset, realising there is more to life than children. She appreciates the care I give her.

We are sitting on the porch of a two-story house, near the town. I see horses going by. We have lots of friends and they and others come by and say hello.

We love bantering, being funny, singing, talking and dreaming together. She is not demanding but she does have a mind of her own. She has a view about things, she reads and teaches me what she knows. I had to wait a long time for her to come into my life

There is a piano in the house, and I play it in the evenings. Now we are having a drink together. I carry her upstairs to bed. Although it is limited; it is a lovely life.

Now I see myself on the porch alone, feeling sad. She is gone.

I died around 60, from a heart attack about five years after she passed. I grew some plants for her and watched them grow. It was too long. I missed her.

We made a pact. She would like to look after me next time. She is my friend and the love of my life. That is why I love sunflowers. I planted some.

I feel peaceful now. I see that it is important to appreciate looking after another and doing so is joy. It was pure joy looking after her with the love between us.

No doubt it takes a lot of energy looking after another who is needy. There are times of exhaustion and frustration. But it gives us an opportunity to reach into the most loving part of ourselves rather than giving into resentment. To do this, our love for ourselves needs to be strong and resilient, as strong as our love for another.

We are spiritually mature when we realise it is privilege to be either the carer, or the one being cared for.

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Shining a Light on Neo-Nazism

Shining a Light on Neo-Nazism

 

 

Recently I read about an American a white supremist, a singer in a Neo-Nazi band, named Arno Michaelis. He is now the author of a book, My Life After Hateand works with young people via an organization, Serve2Unite. His story sheds some light on a question I have often wondered about. How does emanating light make a difference to the people around you?

Many people who come to see me for regressions are looking for meaning in their lives. To their surprise, they often find their main purpose in life is very simple. It is not a job, a career or doing thing for others. It is simply “being.” But there is something special about this “being.” 

One of these clients is Simone, 36, a trainer and coach, who comes to see me because she is tired of the politics playing out at the office—even though she enjoys her day to day work with people. She wants to know her life purpose and her next career step.  

During the regression, Simone is taken to a past life as a man. He is a wise advisor to a King in one of the kingdoms on the Iberian Peninsula, a long, long time ago. The king is a jovial man who reigns over a relatively peaceful kingdom. He greatly appreciates the advice of his respected counsellor who is devoted to the king and the kingdom.

The advisor dies looking out at the ocean on a sunny day. He reflects on his life.

It was a life of service. My opinion was valued. I was an honest, ethical person and the people around me were like that too. It was a wealthy place and people were taken care of.  It had a good energy.
Simone meets her guide in the library after proceeding to her life between lives. The guide opens her book of lifeand she is given information about the advisor’s life and the relationship to her current life.

My job was to teach people to not be greedy and to have compassion for each other. That is why it was a happy peaceful place. I helped them understand the importance of contentment and compassion. They saw the sense in that.

Now my guide is saying that I fulfilled my purpose. We touched multi-generations with that golden energy all around. It is a time after Atlantis when the golden light and energy returned. I was to empower others and keep that energy humming. I sensed an awareness of what had happened in Atlantis.

I feel that is my purpose again, to increase the higher positive vibration and light. This time I feel more people are onboard. It is not as hard as we think, if we remind people of connecting. People are becoming more aware of what they want, their connection with others. Even just doing this one on one is worthwhile. It sends out energy like a ripple in a pond.

I ask Simone and her guides how this will work in her day to day life.

I am not going to be told now. I will know in three days after I sit with this contentment, absorbing and integrating this memory and experience. I need to step into the power I have, and remember who I am. I have this great light within me. The thoughts, ideas, images and words will come to me just when I need them. It is like a “knowing.” I need to keep trusting that it will come.

I didn’t really get my question answered during that session, but I found an answer when Arno Michaelis explained how he turned away from hatred and violence.

He experienced a number of incidents that influenced this shift.  One memorable moment happened some years before he made the final change.

I radiated hostility, especially towards anyone with a darker skin complexion than mine.  

One time at a McDonald’s, I was greeted by a black lady who had a radiant smile for everybody who walked through the door. That smile alone was blowing my bullshit out of the water. I had a swastika tattooed on the middle finger of my right hand and I tried to hide it. But she noticed it anyway saying, “What’s that on your finger?” I couldn’t say, “It’s a symbol of my race because I am white warrior for my people.” I was completely disarmed. I just said, “It’s nuthin.”

She looked up at me, “That’s not who you are. You’re a better person than that.” Powerless against such compassion, I fled from her steady smile and authentic presence, never to return to that McDonald’s again.

Arno didn’t forget this woman nor the energy she emanated. It stayed with him as one chink in the armour he had developed as protection from a childhood of alcoholism and emotional abuse.

He finally changed when he became a single parent of his little daughter. But he never forgot the sunny woman at MacDonald’s who saw right through his protective shield into his heart, and touched the person he really was.

Being!

Being!

Lately I have had quite a few clients who have been told, by their guides, that they are to “be” instead of “do.”

These souls are at a particular stage of development on their journey through the Earth System. They have had many lifetimes of “doing,” focussing on physical survival, struggling with challenges, fighting for security, defending their identity, working or seeking work, studying and striving to get ahead or competing for attention, promotion or success. “Doing” in this sense means action that is based on fear.

When souls incarnate on earth, amnesia is part of the deal. We forget we are more than our physical bodies. We forget we are eternal beings.  

As we develop through many experiences in many lives, we gradually start remembering. As we awaken, we become aware of our eternal nature. Our awareness aligns us with our true nature, gifting us with knowledge and guidance. These gifts are not of the material world. They are esoteric gifts that are part of our multidimensional self.

When we are open up and ready to receive these gifts, we are no longer driven by the fear of survival. We know that leaving our physical body is just a transition. In their current life, many have already visited the “other side,” perhaps spontaneously or during a spiritual regression. They know where they are going, and they know it is beautiful beyond description.

Without fear, these people are in a vibrational state of acceptance. They can now “be” instead of “do.”

“Being” doesn’t mean just sitting around doing nothing all the time. Certainly, you are still and contemplative at times, but the key of “being” is following your inner guidance.

This can be tricky because we humans have a busy mind, unlike other life forms on the planet. For example, bees just be, taking action according to their nature and specific role in the colony and they do this by faithfully following their inner guidance.

We rush around busily with our conscious minds, often unaware of the inner message that could guide us.

Receiving inner guidance comes in many forms. Usually it is just a knowing. It can be an inner voice, or some sense that you trust, which alerts you to your next step. Sometimes it is unconscious—you just find yourself doing or saying something without knowing where that impulse came from. It can be an epiphany where you suddenly a gain deep understanding of some issue. For many, it is a pull.  You feel pulled in a particular direction that you feel compelled to follow in spite of any doubts.

At its core, “being” is surrender. You release your old agendas, your ideas about how things should be, and submit to the higher guidance coming through you.

“Being” is a state of acceptance. You know there is no point complaining or judging others. You realise that everything, and everyone, is just perfectly where it all needs to be.

In a way, “being” means trusting the ultimate plan of the high frequency beings who are running this universe. I have been told, during countless regressions, that all is unfolding as planned and we have nothing to be concerned about. The destruction of the planet is not part of the plan—although we have tumultuous times ahead. These planetary disruptions will frighten many, but annihilation is not the end game.

All those people struggling for survival will someday evolve to a state of being where they surrender their will. At this time, they are still in the process of developing their will. It seems paradoxical, but before you surrender your will and “be,” you have to first develop it. That is just part of experiencing the full curriculum of the Earth System. Earth is a learning school, designed to expand each of us with knowledge and wisdom.

If what I have written here resonates with you, perhaps you are one of those people who are called to “be” rather than “do.” There are many such folk on the planet at this time. They are here to help the system evolve into a higher frequency. Although it takes courage to surrender and trust, it is a worthwhile practice for those who are ready.

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