When I was working as a psychologist, I saw an average of twenty clients a week. Over twenty years, I must have seen thousands of clients. Even so, some stories have stayed with me. Here is one about a client suffering panic attacks.
Chrissy, aged 28, came to see me because she felt increasingly anxious. She had always been a bit anxious, but it had never stopped her from getting on with her life. I considered this a normal level of anxiety. But over the last twelve months, her anxiety had developed into panic attacks.
Her father had committed suicide six years earlier. He’d been an unhappy, sensitive man who coped by using alcohol. Before this, he’d been a loving father to her. She said she coped with his suicide by believing he was at peace. She’d hated watching his emotional turmoil over the last couple of years before he died. Her mother had left him, and he never quite recovered from this experience of loss and rejection.
Like most people, she felt like she was dying during her panic attacks. Somehow, each time they hit, she managed to pull herself out of the fear and regain her composure. This wasn’t a satisfactory solution because, sooner or later, they always returned.
I use the technique of supported exposure to deal with panic attacks. I consider panic attacks to be a type of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Some specific experience, perhaps too fleeting to be noticed, brings a past trauma suddenly and vividly to life.
Supported exposure gently takes the client back into the experience of panic, while letting her know she is safe and supported. Usually the client receives more information about the trauma by staying with the feelings of panic until they gradually subside.
I asked Chrissy to describe her panic attack and, within a few moments, she was back in it. I encouraged her to be brave and stay with her feelings, breathing slowly and deeply. She followed my instructions and soon started reporting her impressions.
She sensed the presence of her father. I accepted this as her truth and began to explore it. I asked if he knew he was dead. She felt a strong sense of confusion and fear.
I have many clients who have sensed the presence of the dead, especially those they had loved who have passed on. Their presence often stirs up feelings of confusion. I used the same technique with Chrissy as I had used with them, as it had always worked.
I suggested she tell her father he has died. He committed suicide many years ago thinking that would free him from pain, but the pain remains. This may sound counter-intuitive, especially if you believe death to be the end. But even though our body falls away, our soul-self continues. Chrissy’s father is clutching onto her because he does not know what else to do.
I explained this to her. “You love him, but his pain is too great for you to bear. It is time for him to go. Are you willing to let him go, Chrissy?”
Chrissy started crying. She admitted it was difficult to let him go. Since his death, she had been aware of his presence from time to time, especially if she felt down or alone. This had been a comfort to her.
I explained it was time to release him. He had things to do on the other side and she needed to learn how to cope without him. I continued to reassure her, giving her time to weep quietly until she decided to let him go.
She suddenly saw a bright light, even though her eyes were closed. Then she said, “He’s gone.” She reported feeling calm.
As she opened her eyes, she explained that she now understood what had happened. He had attached to her after he died. She had never completely grieved her loss because she had never fully felt he’d gone. She wondered if he had sensed some need in her and hung around to help her cope.
It wasn’t only her father who’d felt lost. She had too. After five years with her, he wanted to leave, but every time he started to let go, she went into a panic. This took her back to the moment she learned of his suicide and all her feelings of helplessness. Now she realised she’d been hanging onto him, holding him back from getting on with his life on the other side. The tears she shed during the session expressed the loss she was finally feeling.
After this session, Chrissy had no more panic attacks and her anxiety subsided. She came to see me several times, building her inner strength and developing the confidence to cope as an adult in the world. As well, she soon felt connected to her spiritual guide who was there to help her.
Chrissy was one of the early clients I encountered who was hanging onto a deceased loved one. I have met many more since, on my journey as a healer, some when I was a psychologist and some as a spiritual practitioner. Not all involve panic attacks. There can be other symptoms, such as depression, sadness or feelings of helplessness. Some people know they are hanging onto a loved one but don’t know how to let go. Others, like Chrissy, don’t want to let go.
Panic attacks have many causes. They are all discoverable if the practitioner and the client are willing to explore deeply with an expansive view of what is possible.
Q: How do we re-join our soul self at the end of our life? Does some healing take place?
A: This is a great question because there is much confusion about who we are as humans and who we are as souls. Perhaps I can tease out these ideas to foster a more accurate understanding.
We are never really separate from our soul self. It is all a matter of perspective. Let’s use an analogy to help us understand this concept of perspective. As a human, you decide where you put your attention. You can be talking to your daughter and completely absorbed in what she is saying, doing your best to understand her perspective. Or you may be distracted because your rent is due and you have no money to pay it. So you pay scant attention to your daughter.
In this example, you are deciding where to invest your energy. Energy follows attention.
Before you are born, your soul chooses to incarnate with a plan, including certain goals it hopes to achieve. Your soul invests energy into this new human life. Although your human self is still a part of your soul, you are born with the illusion of separation. You forget who you really are. With this illusion, you make choices about how to live your life. You are not consciously aware of your soul’s plan, but there are waypoints during your life that point you in the plan’s direction. You have free will so you choose to follow these pointers or not.
When you pass over and leave your body, you do not actually re-join your soul self. Instead you gradually become aware that you were already joined, already a part of your soul.
This is also what happens during regressions. You suspend judgement and expand your perspective to include the possibility that you are much more than just your physical self. You cannot arrive at your life between lives while you are holding negative thoughts or attitudes. Negativity is not compatible with the higher realms.
This means your beliefs have the power to disrupt your experience of death. Instead of moving to your life between lives, you may find yourself trapped in the illusions of the physical world.
This happens when you refuse to accept your death. You might be afraid or angry. You might not be ready to die or not want to leave loved ones. You might be stuck because you believe there is nothing after death. Being aware and conscious, you think you are still alive.
I have had clients who drowned in a past life but refused to die. During the regression, they do not pass over straight away. They are in the water still fighting for their life. They might have been ‘dead’ for hundreds of years but they have been unable to accept it. Others are still fighting their enemy or murderer. Some are still running from their executioner. Some are wandering in the desert, thirsty and lost. Others are stuck in a coffin or a place of silent, spacious darkness.
None of these situations or places actually exist. They are illusory creations of these people, based on their beliefs and fears at the time they died.
When you are still deeply connected to the Earth, like these folk who are stuck, you are not aware of your connection to your soul.
As you can imagine, if you are carrying the fear and desperation of an unresolved past life, you are likely to suffer anxiety and stress. You will react whenever a current life situation echoes your past life death. This can happen when you are watching a movie or reading a book.
You can release this trapped energy in your current life. This is one reason people come to a regression. They feel anxious, sensing something is unfinished.
After death, at the gateway to your life between lives—both in real life and in a regression—your guides help shift your attention from the past life to your life between lives. They do this by taking you to a place of recovery. Those who have had traumatic deaths, a long debilitating disease, or a long life usually need this assistance. This process involves an infusion of positive energy into your body. Even in the afterlife, you sense having a body. Typically, you feel white light or a pulsing energy penetrating into you. You are lying on a special bed surrounded by helpers and various healing devices. This is a pleasant and refreshing experience, often concluding with a walk in a beautiful natural environment.
When you are fully aware of your emersion with your soul, you can experience all perspectives. You can place your attention on your human self, your past life selves or your higher self.
What I have written is here based on the many regressions I have done where information is provided from the Higher Consciousness Beings. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to post them here or send them to me.
If you are someone who hates injustice, you are likely to frequently see innocent people dying. Just turning on the news will do it.
You probably felt disturbed and much compassion towards the people trapped in Grenfell Tower in London as it burned. They died because the cladding on the building was unsafe, suggesting someone put profit ahead of people’s safety. Even if the culprits are punished it does not bring back the seventy-nine people who died.
If you look at a snippet of this tragedy, you are likely to feel angry. For example, one thirteen-year-old sent a text to her friend before being engulfed. ‘We are not going to make it. I love you.” You cannot easily feel at peace with this if you take the short view. This young girl lost her life just when it was about to really begin. How can you find justice in that?
We cannot know anything deeper about this girl, but we can look at what Newton Institute practitioners are finding all around the world as they take tens of thousands of people into their past lives and life between lives. They and their clients discover there are reasons why people die and have short lives. Here are some of those reasons:
People lose a loved one because they are learning how to deal with loss. For example, one woman lost her first child to a miscarriage. Then she lost her father to a heart attack not more than a year before losing her mother to cancer. She had dreams of losing her mother when she was much younger so that prepared her to some degree. Of all her losses, she coped best with the last. Because of the dream, she had made sure she cherished her mother while she was still alive. In the regression, she met her deceased parents and was told she was doing well with her life’s purpose, which was dealing with loss.
People lose loved ones to develop compassion. One client lost her child in a past life in the early nineteenth century. She was so devastated that she never recovered, shutting people out of her life. She had been shut down emotionally for many lifetimes, carrying a strong self-protective energy. The loss of her child opened her up emotionally. This shift carried over to her current life where she is gradually softening and learning to be more compassionate.
People also lose loved ones through suicide. In part, this can be about family members learning the lessons outlined above but more likely a person suicides because she or he is struggling with the demands of being physical in this hard school that is the Earth system. In the Afterlife, they can be exposed to the pain suffered by those they left behind. That can be enough to turn them away from suicide in a subsequent life. But some have a habit of leaving when the going gets tough. If this habit is not broken, next time they might get sick and die or have a fatal accident when life is difficult.
We have discovered some principles about death:
No one dies without agreeing to their death, either at the soul level before they incarnated or at the physical level when they are incarnated.
Once they have let go of physicality, death is beautiful. They feel relief, peace and happiness.
Those who leave early to help others grow are having what we call a ’gift life.’ Their main purpose in that life is for others evolution, not their own.
Loved ones pass but their love for us and our love for them is unchanged. In many ways, they are still with us.
Once you deeply understand that our lives and our deaths are purposeful, dealing with loss can be a little easier. You still need to grieve, but eventually you might be able to move past the shock and horror to see the larger perspective, accepting that there is order in our universe. Nothing happens without a reason.
Most people wonder about the answer to this question some time during their life. Some people feel certain life goes on after death. Others are sure that death is the end. And many just do not know.
Much evidence of life after death exists. You just have to go looking with an open mind.Others are sure that death is the end. And many just do not know.Others are sure that death is the end. And many just do not know.Others are sure that death is the end. And many just do not know.
Evidence supporting life after death comes from research into inexplicable experiences that individuals have. More and more people are reporting a phenomenon called After Death Communication (ADC). Another trend is reports by many people of having a Near Death Experience (NDE).
After Death Communication
Judy and Bill Guggenheim, the authors of the book, Hello from Heaven, spent seven years researching this question: “Is there life after death?” To answer it, they gathered evidence of after-death communication (ADC). An ADC occurs when an individual experiences spontaneous communication from a deceased friend or relative.
Contact can be received in a variety of ways. Some sense the loved one’s presence. A few hear their voice. Others feel their touch or experience a meaningful sign. A few smell an aroma that they associate with their late friend or relative.
People usually receive the contact while they are involved in mundane activities. They might be simply doing the dishes or driving. Many are half-awake or day-dreaming. Occasionally, an individual experiences the contact as some sort of warning but most people feel delighted and at peace. They sense their loved one is still around and okay.
Watch an interview on ABCs 20/20 with Bill and Judy Guggenheim below:
The After Death Communication Research Foundation (ADCRF) continues to gather people’s stories of their ADCs. Read recent accounts of ADCs by clicking here.
How many people experience an ADC? Bill Guggenheim estimates 20% of the American population. Earlier surveys also found a significant percentage of people have ADCs.
Percentage of people who report experiencing an ADC
In 1958, 50% of English widows sampled.
In 1971, 47% of Welsh widows sampled.
In 1975, 27% of Americans sampled.
In 1976, 31% of Icelanders sampled.
In 1977, 50% of Canadians sampled.
Near Death Experiences
NDE Dr Jeffrey Long, Jody Long and Paul Perry have researched 1,300 Near Death Experiences (NDEs). They were amazed at the consistency in these stories from people all over the world. Many of the people they interviewed knew nothing about the concept of Near Death Experiences before their life-threatening situation.
Dr Long claims that medical science fails to explain the consistency of these reports and the only plausible answer to the Near Death Experience is that people survive death and go on to experience other dimensions.
Dr Long and his colleagues have written a book that is based on their research called, Evidence of the Afterlife. It became a best seller after Dr Long appeared on NBC’s Today Show. You can see Dr Long’s interview below:
People who experience a NDE or an ADC usually are spontaneously convinced that humans survive death. Generally they feel reassured and at peace. They make an effort to live their lives meaningfully and are more loving and helpful.
But ultimately each of us needs to discover the truth for ourselves. Listening to the stories of people who have had NDEs and ADCs can help, however, nothing is as powerful as personal experience.
A Past Life Regression and a Life Between Lives Regression is a personal experience that goes beyond our normal physical life. These regressions take us into the realms that people who have NDEs describe. An experience of a Past Life Regression and a life Between Lives Regression can be another step to you being convinced that life doesn’t end at death.