During the period of Covid-19 isolation, I was contacted by Simon G. Brown who hosts a well-known Pod Cast on Past Lives and Hypnosis.
Simon has interviewed people like Eben Alexander, Rich Martini, Carol Bowman Mark Gober, Pim Van Lommel Mira Kelly and Bryn Blankinship.
Below is a link to the interview he did with me.
Simon contacted me because he had read my book, Other Lives, Other Realms.
Regressions can change your life—as long as open yourself to your intuition. It doesn’t matter what you call it—your subconscious mind, your higher self or a spirit guide. Our intuition gifts us with flashes of insight that seem to come from a place far beyond the rational. During regressions, I help my clients create a permanent connection with their intuition—or with their spirit guides, if you prefer—so this wisdom is available to them as they continue along their spiritual path.
How Does That Work?
You’re feeling confused or puzzled. A problem is gnawing away at you. And then, as if from nowhere, the answer pops into your mind—even if you never asked the question! But the answer is so compelling you can’t ignore it.
Life the Hard Way.
Not that you don’t try to figure it out. The answer came so easily—without any effort on your part. So how can you take it at face value? Aren’t you supposed to wrestle with a problem, weigh up your options, seek advice from others? We don’t realise how much easier our lives would be if we learned to trust our intuitive wisdom.
I have heard many stories from people who learned to trust their guidance. Here are two:
Anton’s Sad Lesson
Anton came for a regression. I found Anton to be spiritually aware. Still, he harboured self-doubts—until one important day.
Anton’s ten-year old Labrador, Rusty, became increasingly withdrawn and listless. Anton took him to the veterinary practice where several vets examined him. They were puzzled but eventually gave Anton a prescription. Rusty didn’t improve. At home alone, worried about his dog, an unexpected thought popped into Anton’s mind: A tick. Anton wondered if he should mention it when he went back to the vet practice, but it had come out of the blue, completely untethered to any experience.
“What do I know?” thought Anton. “The vets are experts. I know nothing about animals and illness. Anyway, they would have already considered that possibility.”
Unfortunately, they hadn’t, and Anton didn’t share his insight with them, simply discounting it because he trusted the experts more than himself. By the time the vets figured out that it was a tick, it was too late. Rusty died.
That was a really tough lesson. But Anton didn’t waste it. Although he still had doubts, more often than not, he acted on his intuition. The importance of listening to his intuition and acting on it was also reinforced during his regression.
Tough Times for Regina
Until Regina came for her regression, she deeply regretted not acting on her intuition many years earlier. Her awakening unfolded over a long time.
Around age thirty, Regina felt lost and unhappy. The doctor diagnosed depression and said she needed a great new drug called Prozac. Immediately “NO!” came out of her mouth, unbidden and definite. But the doctor was insistent.
Regina eventually relented and followed the doctor’s advice. During the following years, whenever she lapsed back into depression, doctors changed her prescription to other drugs.
After seventeen years on antidepressants, Regina wanted to get off them. In hospital for other reasons, she mentioned this desire. At this time, she was on Zoloft. During the five days she remained in hospital, the intern reduced her dose to nothing.
Zoloft keeps Serotonin levels high and this signals the body to make less. When one suddenly stops taking the drug, the body is left with a deficit. This is called Discontinuation Syndrome and some people can take up to a year to recover.
When the doctor cut her tablets back so drastically, Regina no longer had enough mood-stabilizing serotonin in her body. She suffered many months of what she called “a hell-zone withdrawal,” including serious mental illness and suicidal ideation.
The Lesson
At the time of her regression, Regina still regretted taking the drugs because of this disturbing aftermath. I ask her to remember why she decided to take them in the first place, despite her initial refusal. During her session, she recalled the interaction with the doctor.
The doctor said, “You have a deficiency,” and that made sense because I felt deficient in myself. Then she said I had a hormonal imbalance. That felt right too because I felt out of balance. She said the answer to my problems was this marvellous new medication.
I stayed on the drugs because they helped in the beginning and I felt “in” with the people around me. Many were on it, and it gave me a sense of belonging. Also, my stomach problems improved.
Regina’s decision was understandable. Nearly everyone would choose to take the medication in similar circumstances. At that time, drugs were accepted as the single appropriate treatment. But, like many, Regina found that permanent improvement never came. After years of persevering with different prescriptions, she knew drugs weren’t the answer.
From her experience with anti-depressants, Regina lost trust in the medical profession. For a time, she was angry. She decided to address her issues by undertaking research in alternatives, making personal changes and focussing on her spiritual path.
During her regression, she discovered that those horrid years were not wasted. Regina did not need to have regrets. She had received a compelling lesson in trusting her intuition.
Both Anton and Regina needed their disturbing experiences. Anton lost his beloved dog. Regina spent nearly twenty years of her life on an emotional roller coaster. These lessons appeared because Anton and Regina had reached a necessary stage of soul development. Although they were anxious and timid, they were tuned into their wise guidance. They just hadn’t learned to act on it.
Trusting our wise intuition is a life-changing experience. Life can be much easier when we do. We know our guides are there beside us, looking out for us and giving us the best advice. All we have to do is act on it.
“Terminal lucidity” is the term given to people who become unexpectedly lucid before they die. It is unexpected because their bodies are ravaged and their minds unresponsive. Some are mentally ill, demented, or in a comatose state and sometimes for many weeks.
I first heard about this phenomenon when I was in my twenties. My partner at that time was an orderly working at Royal Prince Alfred Hospital in Sydney. He described how he had observed patients, unconscious and dying, suddenly become energetic and completely present. At first, because he had conversed with these people, he assumed they were recovering. But the next day, when he dropped in to say hello, their bed was empty. On enquiring, he would learn they had died.
He was puzzled. Some had been unresponsive for weeks. But after a while, he came to the conclusion that it was quite common for people to have a “last hurrah” before they passed. Neither of us knew of any medical explanation for this strange occurrence.
Some people have described their pets rallying just before they died. After being listless for days, cats and dogs have come to their owners for a cuddle or curled up and looked into their owner’s eyes before passing.
We know that terminal lucidity has been around for hundreds of years. Shakespeare refer to it in Romeo and Juliet, Act V, Scene III. Romeo proclaims, while laying Paris in Juliet’s tomb:
How oft when men are at the point of death
Have they been merry which their keepers call
A lightening before death
With all our scientific and medical advancements, no one can explain how a deteriorated body and brain (confirmed by autopsy) can rally to participate in such lucidity before death. The only thing that the medical profession admits is that it does happen and is quite common. Many nurses and elderly carers have observed its occurrence.
Over the years, I have heard many stories from clients who have experienced terminal lucidity in their loved ones. However, I know it exists because I have experienced it myself.
In 1981, I was beside my grandmother who was dying. She had suffered deteriorating congestive heart failure for some years. When I was told she was dying, I travelled to the nursing home to be by her side. Her breathing was slow and heavy, and she looked like she was in a deep sleep. I sat by her side for two days and two nights.
On the first night she lapsed into unconsciousness, with long pauses between breaths and a hoarse sound coming from her throat. I panicked and called the night nurse. The nurse flew into action, giving her oxygen and some other treatment, which I don’t specifically recall. My grandmother’s breathing reversed to what it had been before and she appeared to remain in a coma.
The next day my grandmother stirred, soon becoming wide awake and lucid. She said, “I am in a funny predicament.” I asked her what she meant. She replied that she was dying. I didn’t argue with her. Instead, I reminded her how much my sisters and I treasured all the love, guidance and special experiences she and her husband, my grandfather, had given us. Between them, they had taught us to bake, to kill and clean chickens, to sow seeds and watch the strawberries, corn and other plants grow, to catch, scale and clean fish, to find and enjoy rock oysters, to play cards and board games, to behave with dignity and gratitude, and so much more. I thanked her for the love and protection she had given us—we had extremely dysfunctional parents and the love, attention and guidence of our grandparents was gold for us. Before she lapsed again into unconsciousness, she told me how much she had loved every minute of it.
That night, a different nurse was on night duty. I discussed the revival the previous night. Neither of us saw the point of continual revivals, delaying the inevitable, for which I now knew my grandmother was prepared. This time when her breaths were more and more delayed, we didn’t interfere. I held her hand, speaking to her softly while watching her slowly fade away.
What a privilege it was to be with her at the end. And I was so grateful for the minutes of lucidity which provided an opportunity for the two of us to reminisce and appreciate the experiences we’d shared.
Now I think of all those in nursing homes who, because of Covid-19, are denied their relatives at their bedside. Dying can be beautiful but the lack of loved ones at the bedside of those leaving the planet is hard for all. I pray that somehow this is rethought and changed, so the opportunity for these special moments at the end of a life are preserved.
One nurse summed it up after observing terminal lucidity in her patients while relatives were at their bedside. It remains a beautiful and mysterious gift.
NOTE:
If you would like to know more about terminal lucidity, the University of Virginia (UVA) has conducted significant research providing evidence of consciousness being independent of the brain and body.
At a conference in India in 2013, Dr Bruce Greyson, then head of the Department of Perpetual Studies at UVA, spoke about terminal lucidity and other research. Here is the link:
What is it like to have a life between lives regression? It is impossible to tell until you have one because each one is unique. I can give you an indication by sharing the experiences of various clients. Here is one.
Daniel came to see me hoping to have a transcendental experience. His guides met this desire right at the beginning of his regression. Most of the time he was quiet and peaceful, enjoying the loving light energy he was experiencing. When he did speak, he described the thoughts and feelings arising in him.
I feel that I want to be in nature. I am looking at the sun, feeling the warmth of the sun and everything is enjoying the warmth of the sun. The trees and flowers. The animals. The sun doesn’t choose what to shine on, it shines on everything.
I was thinking about my wife. There is great love from the sun for my wife. I feel the love for my family. That love from the sun is always with us. (Emotion is present in his voice).
I guess the light and the love can go through everything. It has the ability to heal and help grow things and help everything blossom and go green. We are made of this light. It runs through our body. I feel relaxed and at peace.
I feel that Mother Earth contains this light and love as well. She has a wisdom and wants to share that wisdom with us. I can connect more with this energy by caring for Mother Earth. Loving the trees.
I am thinking about my breath. Life is contained in the breath. When we breathe, we receive the light and the love.
I am thinking about water and the streams. How water feeds everything, feeds nature. It quenches our thirst and nourishes us, carrying nutrients to support life.
I see dancing. (Daniel is crying emotional tears). How people are dancing in circles in celebration.
I am thinking about fire. It is very powerful. It can be scary but also beautiful. It has the ability to change things. It can destroy old forms and create new life from the old.
I am thinking about wind. It can carry nutrients and seeds to spread new life to new areas. And the breath. It can carry the energy of life to sustain life and give life.
I am seeing that Earth is a small part of the vastness of the Universe. When we connect to our heart we connect to the vast universe, the consciousness of the universe. The Universe is intelligent and wise.
I am thinking about sound. Everything is vibration and energy. The energy and vibration has the ability to change, shift and move. It is a fact, but it is a fun fact, like dancing is fun. The fun is the opportunity to express. There is no right or wrong, there is only expression.
I feel we humans now have an opportunity to dance closer to the light, just basically to enjoy the new dance.
When Daniel emerged from trance, he said that being connected to loving energy felt natural, more natural than being on Earth. This wasn’t a surprise as Daniel has only had a few incarnations on Earth and Earth is the heaviest dimension in which he has ever been. His guides advised him to connect each day to the higher vibrations he experienced during the regression. This will help alleviate him missing home.
If you like, you can relax and meditate on Daniel’s descriptions and, with your imagination, create your own unique experience.
Bird of Paradise can mean different things as my friend and colleague, Jane Teresa Anderson, points out in her recently published book, Bird of Paradise: Taming the Unconscious to bring Your Dreams to Fruition. See photo above.
Jane is a dream analyst and dream alchemist. As a dream analyst, she uses her skills to help her clients understand their unconscious desires and concerns. As a dream alchemist, she gives her clients a process to make desired changes by reprogramming their dream in unusual and creative ways.
I first met Jane in 2009 at a talk she was giving on dreams. There was something about her that I found compelling. Maybe it was her silky blonde hair that would glide and shine as she moved her head. Perhaps it was her gentle English accent and softly spoken voice that still somehow carried to the far corners of the room. More likely it was all these things, as well as her stories which showed how dreams reflect our unacknowledged motivations.
After the talk, I spoke to her briefly when my friend Jen introduced us. Although we never exchanged details, I had a feeling we would see each other sometime in the future.
In early 2010, we met again, this time at a book launch. Both our husbands were present, and they hit it off. Michael and Ian are both writers and, soon after meeting, they became friends as did Jane and I.
In Jane’s new book, which I thoroughly enjoyed, she notes a number of synchronicities occurring during her life. After reading it, I considered some of the synchronicities I have experienced. One that stood out involved Jane. At the time, it was so unexpected that I couldn’t dismiss it – like I often had with other potential synchronicities – as coincidence.
One particular day, a young girl of about 17 came to see me at my psychology practice. She had only one request, she wanted to know the meaning of her dream. Although dreams had been mentioned by other clients as side issues, in seventeen years of practice, no one had ever come to see me for the sole reason of interpreting their dream.
At one point in the dream, the young girl was immersed in water, and there were other complexities that struck me as cryptic. I had no idea what any of it meant. But something else was puzzling. That very evening, for the first time ever, Jane and Michael were coming to stay. Not knowing what else to do, I gathered as much information I could and told my client that a dream analyst was coming for dinner. She booked in for the following day.
Using contextual information which I had gleaned from the client, Jane easily unravelled the dream, told me what further questions to ask and how to make sense of it all. The client was thrilled.
Since then, I have had some of my dreams interpreted by Jane and have read some of her books. So now I know a little more about dream analysis than I did before—but still so little. While listening to Jane’s podcasts where she deciphers people’s dreams, I am amazed at her skill. Like the work I do, it is a calling. She heals people through working with them and their dreams.
When I was doing my life between lives training, Jane agreed to be one of my practice clients. In Bird of Paradise, she mentions doing this regression and only while reading the book, did I learn how much the experience meant to her. I also became aware of many other interesting and wonderful experiences she shares of her life.
I enjoyed her book so much I wanted to share it with you. She takes her readers on a lyrical journey through a floral garden of meaningful anecdotes, dreams and stories. I felt a sense of serenity in her writing which left me smiling by its end. Somehow the world felt safe and calm again. I am curious if others will find something similar and wouldn’t be surprised if they did.
If you are interested in dreams and what they mean or if you would like to read Jane’s beautiful book, here is a link: https://www.janeteresa.com/
Have you ever noticed that sometimes something you see, hear about or read disturbs you and stays in you mind? There is a reason for this and it is worth exploring its source in order to gain a deeper self-understanding and peace.
This blog is accessed via a link. It is one I have written as a guest blog for my colleague, Lisbeth Lysdale.
NOTE: the english translation is below the Danish script.
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When the world was hit by the Covid-19 pandemic, I recalled a life between lives regression case that a colleague had shared with me some years ago. This case was quite a shock to me at the time and it may surprise you too.
My colleague, Lisbeth Lysdal, is a Newton Institute life between lives hypnotherapist working in Denmark. As well, she is a Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) coach, a medium and healer, and holds a Masters of Science in Engineering.
I contacted Lisbeth and asked her about the case, which has particular relevance to the coronavirus epidemic. As she had not yet published the case, she very kindly agreed let me share it with you, my readers, as a guest blog. Here is Lisbeth exploring this case:
Regression therapists certified with the Newton institute conduct many different cases, some quite unusual. One such case was Peter, 53, a single healthcare worker, dealing primarily with patients who have severe mental handicaps and illness.
Michael Newton was the first person to find out that many of us have jobs on the other side. Some of our clients are very interested to know what they do in the spiritual realm. During his regression, Peter, discovered something completely unexpected in terms of his activities in his life between lives.
Peter came to see me feeling stuck in his life and looking for a new direction. Through coping with a lot of changes over the past years, he developed a deep sense of compassion, and yet he frequently experienced people being afraid of him. He felt annoyed at the way they reacted towards him and wanted to know the cause. He was also interested in understanding his path and purpose, hoping this would also help him release his frustration and anger at others.
Following is an extracted transcript from his regression that takes place just after he enters the spiritual realm.
Peter: I see other souls and feel them acknowledging me as I move in between them.
Lisbeth: And what are they doing as you move between them?
Peter: We are planning how to heighten awareness and consciousness on Earth.
Lisbeth: Are they working individually, in pairs or in larger groups.
Peter: It differs, and yet we all seem to be connected. I am a part of it.
Lisbeth: Describe your experience of being a part of this.
Peter: It is a large community and we all want to do the best we can to help those who are incarnated to have the best possible experience.
Lisbeth: And what is your soul’s purpose as a part of this?
Peter: To create and motivate. I create disease and a lot of other things. (Peter starts crying.)
Lisbeth: What is happening now?
Peter: I just got insight in my part in creating disease. It is a necessity.
Lisbeth: Tell me why this is necessary.
Peter: It is a fast way to change people’s consciousness. Instead of working with disease in an individual, what we do is give large groups the opportunity to change.
Lisbeth: Please explain this to me so I can comprehend how disease can contribute to higher consciousness.
Peter: Instead of working continuously with the individual, the illness makes it possible to activate a development in several places at once.
Lisbeth: And what is activated?
Peter: It moves people’s attention away from the simple tasks of everyday life.
Lisbeth: Tell me more about the use of disease.
Peter: It can be used to bring people together and show them the importance of uniting or help them reunite. It helps them to see the core essence of their relations.
Lisbeth: this seems to be very important work. Tell me are you just part of the planning or are you part of implementing the diseases in the physical?
Peter: We are a group of 10 souls working together. (Sobbing loudly.) We send the disease in at different locations on earth. We have a lot of helpers to do this, some are from the angelic realm.
Some diseases are made to be contagious and some to be spread on a cellular level.
It is not a problem to get the disease implemented, a lot of souls will help in this process. They know it is a necessity when we need to work fast.
Lisbeth: And what do you call this specialization?
Peter: We are highly specialized in creating disease and natural disasters.
Lisbeth: If a soul would want to join your group, how would they train for this?
Peter: It is a very particular field and the requirements are high. They must have experience in healing every disease. We are all healers. We can build and create and that gives us the ability to destroy and be very selective in how and what is broken down. To have this specialization we must be able to work energy in every possible way.
Souls in general learn from the collective and gain wisdom from the experience of others. For this particular specialization, we learnt from the ten souls in this group. But we did not just get this knowledge and training from the collective or training in the spiritual realm.
We have lived every possible aspect of human life and experienced everything. We have lived lives in which we caused every kind of pain and suffering to fully understand the how the physical, emotional and spiritual parts are affected. We have lived lives as victims and healers to get the necessary experience. We have lived isolated lives, being outcasts as well as deeply connected lives. We still incarnate to understand every possible scenario.
Lisbeth: And how do all these experiences affect you in the physical incarnation as Peter?
Peter: I carry all of these experiences and emotions in my physical body.
The strength that comes with experience is also a weakness. I hold all the experience from all the lives lived. I know how to navigate every aspect of existence. The body for this lifetime is very susceptible to emotions and that makes it hard for me to stay on the intended path for this life.
Peter has the physical knowledge that every decision has an effect on the outcome and thus holds every path open until the last minute.
Lisbeth: Is there a way for you to better communicate the intended path to Peter?
Peter: He must listen to the guidance I give him.
Lisbeth: Can we establish a guidance system, that will help Peter easily receive your guidance?
Peter’s guides give him information about various signals that he can use in his daily life. This is important because Peter contacts me after his regression, reporting that he feels increased calm within himself. He says he now understands why others sense a power within him that can feel threatening. From the regression, he has gained a new sense of direction and a new-found confidence in pursuing other career opportunities.
As you can see from the transcript, Peter was very upset when he first realised his job in the life between lives was creating natural disasters, disease and epidemics on Earth.
We on Earth see such events as destructive, particularly pandemics like Covid-19. No one wants to be ill. We would all like to be strong and healthy. But as Peter learns, one can take a different perspective on disease and pandemics.
The higher view is ultimately positive. Our survival on Earth is threatened. The way we have treated Mother Earth and lived our modern lives is a major cause of this problem. We have lost our connection to our true spiritual nature as loving, compassionate, wise beings. Many people on Earth focus on security in the form of possessions and money, while some go even further being selfish and greedy.
By alerting humans to their vulnerability and physical mortality, disease gives humans the opportunity to look for a deeper meaning to their lives and within themselves.
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In part 1 of this topic, I suggested that a father not being fully present for a child is part of their souls’ plan. Children develop strategies to cope with the emotional absence of their father and, as a consequence, the soul learns and grows. We look at another two examples of father absence.
Christian
Christian was a perfectionist. Although this sometimes suited his career as a specialist engineer, it also contributed to his general feelings of dissatisfaction. He tended to be self-critical, frustrated with his work colleagues and annoyed with his boss who failed to acknowledge his efforts at work.
The source of his perfectionism was his childhood relationship with his father. His father, an excellent provider, believed his only job as a husband and father was to bring in the money, mow the lawn occasionally and take out the garbage. Christian’s father worked long hours in a high profile and demanding job. At home after work, he flopped down in front of the TV and tended to be grumpy and critical when interacting with his family.
Christian was talented at sport but his father took no interest, never coming to see a game. As is often the case with absent fathers, Christian craved his father’s attention, relentlessly seeking to impress him and gain his approval.
Even though his striving never worked, Christian continued trying to be perfect. He desperately needed to be acknowledged by his boss, colleagues and friends but even when he received a compliment or thanks, he remained unsatisfied.
During his regression, he learned his perfectionism arose from his feelings of worthlessness and his compulsion to please. He was his own worst enemy. He never praised himself, doubting the quality of his work and being constantly self-critical.
In previous lives, he had been careless and flippant. His current life plan was to make a shift to being more diligent. His absent father was a catalyst. By withholding fatherly attention and acknowledgement from his son, Christian developed his perfectionism. On the continuum of being very easy going at one end and very precise at the other, Christian had shifted significantly. He was now rigidly precise, causing a lot of frustration for himself when he didn’t quite measure up.
Once Christian saw the larger plan for his development, he relaxed. He was on track with his life plan. His negatively reduced and he began acknowledging the progress he was making. He realized there were tasks where being precise was important and others where it wasn’t necessary. Having his perfectionistic tendencies, he easily found the motivation to apply this new knowledge.
Once he felt positive about himself and his work, he stopped needing as much positive attention from his boss and colleagues. He was more relaxed at work and started enjoying his work environment.
Anna
Anna’s father was a quite man. He sat in the corner, reading his books or watching TV. Every now and then he would be annoyed by something his wife did and blow up angrily. He had no interest in his two children.
Even though she disliked her father, Anna married a man who was much the same. She soon discovered that her husband was also distant. He took little interest in their two children. Eventually this became too painful for Anna. She sought counseling and decided to leave the marriage.
Anna’s father never changed. After her marriage broke up, she went back to live with her parents for a few months. Her father kept to himself and ignored his grandchildren.
After her son was diagnosed with autism, Anna realized that both her father and her husband had autistic tendencies. The marriage had survived for as long as it did only because she played the same role as a wife as she had as a child. She tiptoed around her father and she had tiptoed around her husband.
She did a life between lives regression because she wondered what she was supposed to learn from these relationships.
Anna’s guides reassured her that she was on track. She was on the path of learning how to balance her needs with the needs of others. This is a very difficult lesson to learn. Some people give so much of themselves they become ill. Others are selfish and ignore the needs of others. No matter which side of this continuum, you are on, the consequences of being out of balance are unpleasant.
Anna’s husband and father are also in the process of learning this lesson. Her husband was not happy about her leaving. He had to fend for himself. He might have many challenging lifetimes before he understands the importance of caring for others.
When Anna left her husband, she was emotionally drained and feeling lost. She didn’t know who she was and what she really needed. She had given too much of herself away.
Now she is tasked with solving this dilemma. Bringing up an autistic son is challenging, especially since she knows she need to balance looking after him with looking after herself.
Knowing this is a difficult journey is helpful. We all learn through experience. This means trial and error. Being kind to herself is crucially important whenever she finds the balance getting out of kilter. But she knows she is on the right path and this is a comfort.
Absent fathers have their role in our soul development. Those people who have had absent fathers often envy their friends with attentive fathers. Although that is understandable, if you had an absent father, it is worthwhile meditating on the gifts the absence of your father may have given you.
One client met his father during his life between lives. He complained.
“Why didn’t you ever do anything with me when I was young?”
“Don’t you remember son,” his father replied. “You asked me to step back when we first made the plan for your life. You wanted to build your independence.”
The focus of our two sessions had been on his need to develop independence. The client knew immediately his father was right. All the past hurt drained away.
By taking a high perspective of your soul’s journey through many lifetimes might reveal that your absent father is, in fact, a blessing.
Many people believe that things happen for a reason. Some are religious or spiritually oriented. My grandmother, devoted throughout her life to her Christian God, often used the well-worn phrase, “God moves in mysterious ways.” Without knowing any details, she trusted that those (God) running this universe knew what they were doing.
We are not so trusting these days. We question the motives our government officials, those in charge of our religious institutions and many other people around us. Why would we trust that there is purpose in the spread of the coronavirus with no details or evidence? We are not all naïve children. In our modern world we have seen the greed, the lies and the lack of care of many large and small organisations. The TV series “Dirty Money” and the movie, “The Big Short” shows us how greedy, dishonest and foolish some humans can be.
And yet there are many who still believe that things happen for a reason, including the Covid-19. These are the people who have their feet planted firmly on the ground, while their heart is connected to something greater than us all. They trust that all will be well. Many of these may not identify as spiritual, but they have an inner knowing that there is nothing to fear.
Others, however, want to know why we are suddenly struggling with a virus that has the potential to wipe out millions of people.
Practitioners, like myself, who are members of the Michael Newton Institute, have known for the last couple of years that some great change was coming. We didn’t know what it was, but client after client was told by their spiritual guides that the way we live was going to change, and relatively quickly.
That might sound crazy to some of you. I thought it was a bit crazy too. Even though I know there is a bigger plan, I couldn’t work out how massive change could come as quickly as the guides were predicting.
Now, as I watch TV, I feel as though I am watching one of those disaster movies where the newsreader is reporting massive ice sheets or tremendous earthquakes swallowing up the landscape, or aliens in their spaceships landing. I need to pinch myself to switch back onto the facts in front of my eyes: all around the world at the same time, countries are completely shutting down.
The coronavirus is the catalyst for change. Greed and dishonesty have been running our world and we need to return to love and compassion. People have forgotten who they really are. They don’t need to fight for survival. Although our bodies die, we do not. Even though our bodies change and grow old, our true self does not. We experience, we learn and we grow in wisdom. In the past this was through the pain we suffered. But things are different now. We don’t have to learn the hard way—unless we want to.
What do we do to help birth this change? I had a client today who was given the answer to this question.
She was taken back to the moment when her daughter was born. The baby was distressed and there was noise and panic in the room from those assisting. This is what she said:
I saw the source of light that we see when we are dying. There was this craziness happening on the day, the stress and rush. But I saw a fork in the background, and I took the right path. I stayed with the light. I didn’t panic, in spite of my pain and the panic all around me. I had this sense that all is good. I got the message, ‘trust yourself. You know what you are doing.’
I see angels dancing, happy and smiling. Happiness, joy and fun is coming. There is no need to fear. Good is on its way.
Referring to the challenges we now face, the guides continued their message:
There is light in the world now. The light spreads. It is not just dark anymore. It is different to the past. There is not just black and white now, there is colour. Many are following the old patterns of the past, being fearful and hiding, trying to survive. But there is no need. It is different this time.
Guilt is an illusion, an old pattern from the past. Forget about it. It is silly and not necessary. There is no need to fear, hide or panic. This is not the same as before a long time ago. Much love and light is in the world now.
Countless clients, during spiritual regressions, have been told that many light and loving souls have incarnated here to help birth this new Earth. You might be one of them.
The message from the guides continues:
Be compassionate for each other, stay with the light. Don’t be selfish. The light is overcoming the dark. Connect to the light, and the dark will be overcome. Each of you has healing power, each of you has light within, and connecting to love and light will bring more enlightening. Slow down and be patient with yourself and others. Trust that all is in control and be responsible and caring. The more you connect to the light (love and compassion) rather than the dark (fear and guilt), the faster it will be overcome. Do right by yourself and by others.
Although the coronavirus right now may seem dangerous and inconvenient, it is giving us an opportunity to remember what really matters, our loved ones, each other, enjoying life and having fun.
Fathers who are emotionally absent leave a legacy to their children. Their children usually grow up feeling incomplete, empty or lost in some way. Although many of us disapprove of this legacy, we discover during life between lives regressions that this “father absence” has a purpose.
“My father was absent even when he was present,” mused my client, Lara, as we explored her childhood. Her father read the paper in the morning, rarely acknowledging his three children. He sat at the head of the table at dinner, watching the news on TV. The only time he engaged with Lara was when she had done something that he considered incorrect. Even this critical attention was rare.
Adult children of absent fathers use different strategies to deal with the emptiness they carry.
Desperate for her father’s love and attention, Lara spent her childhood being ‘the good girl, hoping to get a few crumbs of positive attention. It didn’t work, her father had his mind on other things, mainly his work, fulfilling what he believed was his male role—providing for his family.
In her teens, Lara gave up being the good girl and rebelled. She decided her father wasn’t important. In fact, her behavior was largely a reaction to him. Subconsciously, she was trying to get his attention and punish him by being the bad girl.
Lara struggled with her relationships with men. She didn’t know how to relax and be herself. She didn’t know how to express her true feelings. She was always afraid her partners would leave, and they did.
She was attracted to men who were like her father, expecting them to treat her the same way as her father did. And they did. No matter how much she tried to get her partners to love her, they remained distant.
Of course, there was a part of her that would have been terrified if her partner suddenly become loving and attentive. She had no model for dealing with that level of intimacy.
When we did a regression, she realized she was still living with her ‘internalized father.’ She was guided to look more deeply at her father and his history. She saw that his father, her paternal grandfather, was also distant, never emotionally connecting with his children. Times were tough, back then. There were wars and danger. Nearly everyone shut off their emotions and focused on surviving. The father absence had come down the ancestral line.
Lara’s guides told her she could change her relationships with men and attract a different type of man. First, she had to heal her relationship with her father.
She was given an image of her father as a child. He was alone, afraid and confused. She knew what this felt like and she started weeping. She wrapped this little boy up in a blanket of love, crying many tears, not knowing if the tears were hers or her fathers.
After this session, her relationship with her father changed. She didn’t see him as the cold rejecting father anymore. She saw him as the hurt child. She was gentle with him and just a little affectionate. He softened and sometimes asked about her life.
Her guides told Lara that she was here to learn to be loving rather than judging. She had been hurt by her father’s absence, believing it was about her, thinking she was unlovable. In truth, it was not about her at all. Her father was emotionally shut down. His heart had hardened to survive and when Lara was acting out the bad girl, her heart had hardened too.
Lara realized that there is always a reason for people being cool and distant. Sometimes, by asking our guides to help us see the truth, we are given a glimpse of their pain and suffering. Seeing the truth of people, their inner pain, fear and isolation, can lift us out of judgement. Then, as loving souls, we are inclined to treat them carefully, with kindness and compassion.
In part 2 of Absent Fathers, we explore two more illuminating cases.
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