Do bystanders help abused people when someone is being accosted on the street? This is a concern that many of us may have. Of course, the other side of this question is, “will I help others who are in trouble?”

Unfortunately, most of us have heard about people walking right past someone who is being attacked, abused or needing assistance? This happens, but not as often as you think. The following research surprised many.

Do bystanders help abused people?

Researchers from universities in Copenhagen and Lancaster researched these questions. They examined 219 different videos of verbal or physical abuse that took place in three cities, Amsterdam, Lancaster and Cape Town. Out of every ten instances of abuse, nine people helped and only one person walked by. In other words, ninety percent of people stepped in to help, and this percentage was same in all three cities.

Watching, reading or hearing the news, we often develop a warped view about our fellow humans. The media focuses on the negative, on actions that are the opposite of kindness. In fact, we need to remind ourselves that most people, around ninety percent in fact, are willing to intervene. People help when abuse and violence is taking place, even when there is some risk to themselves. 

My clients’ spirit guides encourage my clients to be kind and forgiving. Many find this is their life purpose and are called to act kindly in the face of abuse and criticism. How do they do that?

The following two cases, from the many clients I have seen, help us understand. One is Hashree, a lovely woman, who felt called to undertake a life between lives regression.

Hashnee returns Home

In her session, I help Hashree obtain the relaxed state that helps clients experience their past lives and the life between lives. After dying at the end of a past life. Hashree is called back into her timeless spirit home in the life between lives. She explains what it is like there.

Happily, I walk on the beach barefoot, wearing a long white flowing dress. My hair is long, curly and blonde. I meet somebody, my beloved, and I am saying,” I finally get to be with you.”

I feel so much love. Although, I can’t see his face, he is holding me. Sadly, I feel we are going to part soon.

Apparently, I have something to do that will separate us. Even though, I don’t want to leave him, I have to. Now, I have made peace with it and accept that I have to go. Because he is my soulmate, he is being strong for both of us.

Unfortunately, we cannot be together in our lives because we would be too absorbed with each other and lose our focus. Sometimes, when incarnated, we meet, but only briefly.

A little boat has come for me and I see him standing under the trees. Now, I climb into the boat getting my dress wet. While I say, “I don’t want to leave you”, he laughs and pushes me out on the water.

Now, I sail away. The sky is golden and beautiful. All alone, I drift on the water which is quiet and enjoyable. I am at peace.

Hashnee’s purpose

At this point in the regression, I am not sure whether Hashree is still in spirit or physical, so I ask her. “Are you a spirit now?”

I guess I am. I had return to my heavenly father. He wants me back. I have a job to do. Now, I feel no emotion just calm.

I have a purpose, but I don’t know what it is yet. Now, I rest to recover. I feel like I am floating. It is nice. I feel I remain in the in between. Although, I can sense the physical world, I am not in it. Still, I rest to build my energy for something. Also, I feel a bit apprehensive about what I have to do. My father is saying I can do it. Now, he fills my heart with so much love it is going to explode. He wants me to take that love and spread it. I hear him say, “I am joy.” Apparently, there will be sadness too. I feel uncertain, but he is making me strong so I can do it.

Now I am still in the “in between” and I have to make the choice. One, I could stay here in this calm beautiful place, Second, I can go down again and do this job. From here, I see Planet Earth and it seems like there is a bubble around it. Almost, I sense poking my finger in it.

My father says, “you are chosen because you are strong. Now, my job is going back into a body to touch sad, unhappy people. As I do, my touch will lighten something positive in them.

Obviously, Hashree does come back to Earth into her current incarnation. She is married with children and now speaks from that perspective.

In my current life, my father gives me this heart to love. But, it gets broken a lot. Still, I carry the sadness of leaving my spiritual home. I don’t like to come back to Earth, but I have work to do.

Hashnee’s return to earth

Hashree starts crying. In her current life, her husband needs her, but this man is not her soulmate. As well, he has a tendency to be critical and this often hurts her.

I struggle to understand people who speak badly to others and to me. Looking at my husband, I see his heart is sad. I just have to be kinder to him. My heart can cope. I am strong and my strength is love.I just gained the insight and strength to carry this burden.

Together, we are on this journey and I am to help unlock his heart. I am to show him forgiveness. As I forgive him, I help him find forgiveness for himself. Although he is good soul, he is carrying some guilt. I need to look past everything, past him being human, and see the divinity underneath.

INow, I feel this light so bright that my hair is standing on end.

Because they have forgotten who they really are, people are sad. I remind them by seeing the divinity in them. Before, when I felt hurt, I allowed my human nature to take over. But, his criticism is not really about me. Now I get a sense that I am not attached to anything. I am free.

Someone tells me, I am the joy maker. I can bring laughter. My gift is words and the way I speak with love.

During her regression, Hashree is given information about her purpose, but that is not all she receives. From her guides, she experiences first hand the power and energy of love. This changes her, reminding her of who she really is and why she is on the planet. Her path is to act with unconditional love and this brings joy to her and others.

How to help others

In another regression, a client, Lindsay, is learning to express kindness. His guides give him some tips on how to do this.

To be kind and loving, you need patience and no personal agenda. Do not invest yourself in the outcome. When moving to love, do not be concerned about anyone succeeding or not. Winning or being right is not important. In other words, our acts of kindness are not tied to any need in us.

It is not about trying to be good. It is doing what feels right and what you know is right. You just do your best and let everything else go.

When helping someone, we usually hope that he or she succeeds, improves, recovers or, at least, survives. If we step in when someone is being abused, we may hook into their distress and become emotional. When someone is critical or arguing with us, we can be defensive, wanting to be in the right. As well, we may expect gratitude from the person we help. But the guides are clear on all the above, the outcome is not our concern.

We help because it is who we are. Being caring and kind is in our nature. When we are kind, we are expressing our true self. How would we feel if we walked by, ignoring the genuine needs of others? That is not who we really are. Kindness to others is also kindness to ourselves.