How do we re-join our soul self?

How do we re-join our soul self?

Q: How do we re-join our soul self at the end of our life? Does some healing take place?

A: This is a great question because there is much confusion about who we are as humans and who we are as souls. Perhaps I can tease out these ideas to foster a more accurate understanding.

We are never really separate from our soul self. It is all a matter of perspective. Let’s use an analogy to help us understand this concept of perspective. As a human, you decide where you put your attention. You can be talking to your daughter and completely absorbed in what she is saying, doing your best to understand her perspective. Or you may be distracted because your rent is due and you have no money to pay it. So you pay scant attention to your daughter.

In this example, you are deciding where to invest your energy. Energy follows attention.

Before you are born, your soul chooses to incarnate with a plan, including certain goals it hopes to achieve. Your soul invests energy into this new human life. Although your human self is still a part of your soul, you are born with the illusion of separation. You forget who you really are. With this illusion, you make choices about how to live your life. You are not consciously aware of your soul’s plan, but there are waypoints during your life that point you in the plan’s direction. You have free will so you choose to follow these pointers or not.

When you pass over and leave your body, you do not actually re-join your soul self. Instead you gradually become aware that you were already joined, already a part of your soul.

This is also what happens during regressions. You suspend judgement and expand your perspective to include the possibility that you are much more than just your physical self. You cannot arrive at your life between lives while you are holding negative thoughts or attitudes. Negativity is not compatible with the higher realms.

This means your beliefs have the power to disrupt your experience of death. Instead of moving to your life between lives, you may find yourself trapped in the illusions of the physical world.

This happens when you refuse to accept your death. You might be afraid or angry. You might not be ready to die or not want to leave loved ones. You might be stuck because you believe there is nothing after death. Being aware and conscious, you think you are still alive.

I have had clients who drowned in a past life but refused to die. During the regression, they do not pass over straight away. They are in the water still fighting for their life. They might have been ‘dead’ for hundreds of years but they have been unable to accept it. Others are still fighting their enemy or murderer. Some are still running from their executioner. Some are wandering in the desert, thirsty and lost. Others are stuck in a coffin or a place of silent, spacious darkness.

None of these situations or places actually exist. They are illusory creations of these people, based on their beliefs and fears at the time they died.

When you are still deeply connected to the Earth, like these folk who are stuck, you are not aware of your connection to your soul.

As you can imagine, if you are carrying the fear and desperation of an unresolved past life, you are likely to suffer anxiety and stress. You will react whenever a current life situation echoes your past life death. This can happen when you are watching a movie or reading a book.

You can release this trapped energy in your current life. This is one reason people come to a regression. They feel anxious, sensing something is unfinished.

After death, at the gateway to your life between lives—both in real life and in a regression—your guides help shift your attention from the past life to your life between lives. They do this by taking you to a place of recovery. Those who have had traumatic deaths, a long debilitating disease, or a long life usually need this assistance. This process involves an infusion of positive energy into your body. Even in the afterlife, you sense having a body. Typically, you feel white light or a pulsing energy penetrating into you. You are lying on a special bed surrounded by helpers and various healing devices. This is a pleasant and refreshing experience, often concluding with a walk in a beautiful natural environment.

When you are fully aware of your emersion with your soul, you can experience all perspectives. You can place your attention on your human self, your past life selves or your higher self.

What I have written is here based on the many regressions I have done where information is provided from the Higher Consciousness Beings. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to post them here or send them to me.

What happens when you don’t fulfil your life purpose?

What happens when you don’t fulfil your life purpose?


Mary lived on a small ranch in the American Wild West. She worked hard managing the ranch with her husband, Dave. But managing the ranch wasn’t Dave’s only interest. He was also a horse thief. Mary had an inkling that something wasn’t right but she pushed that thought right out of her mind.

One day, when Dave and her two adolescent sons were away, the sheriff arrived. He said little but insisted she accompany him to town. Once there, she found her husband and two sons were in jail for horse rustling. Worse, an innocent man had been shot dead during the theft.

Dave was not tried for the murder. Instead the two boys pleaded guilty to the crime. Dave had convinced them that their youth would save them, whereas he would hang if the truth were told.

Dave was wrong. Mary’s two sons were publicly executed. Mary, unable to cope with her grief and guilt, killed herself.

Mary is a past life of Chelsea. Chelsea relived Mary’s life during a regression.

The purpose of Mary’s life in the American west was not fulfilled. It was about listening to her intuition and facing the truth. At her death, Mary knew she’d failed. She knew because she couldn’t accept her stance that resulted in the death of her sons.

Chelsea wept with grief and disappointment while experiencing Mary’s failure.

Chelsea came to understand why Mary had ignored the truth about Dave. Mary’s only way out was to leave with her two sons. Briefly, in a moment of insight, Mary had thought about leaving. She took it no further because she was afraid, not knowing how she would support herself and the two boys.

Chelsea’s guide showed her what would have happened if Mary had left. Mary and her sons would have been fine. Opportunities for a new life would have arisen soon after she’d gone.

Chelsea made a number of changes after this regression. She listened more to her intuition and acted on it. Her brother-in-law is similar to Dave. He is dishonest and manipulates his wife, Chelsea’s sister. Chelsea has always had suspicions about him and sees him very clearly. He has no chance of manipulating her into believing his lies or investing in his dodgy schemes.

It is easy to see Mary’s life as a failure. But was it?

Mary’s life is only a failure if you look at it in isolation. When you see the big picture, Mary’s life was a great success. The soul that Mary and Chelsea share learned a great deal. Chelsea has benefited from Mary’s suffering in that past life.

Warren, aged seventy, saw me for a regression to help him understand why he had made certain decisions in his current life. He relived two past lives, one as a corporal, called Charlie, in WWI and another as a fighter pilot, Phil, in WWII. In each life, he is impulsive.

In WWI, the Charlie is in charge of a of a dozen men. They land on a designated beachhead on the Gallipoli peninsular. High steep hills block their path so Charlie impulsively decides to turn south, where he sees a break between the cliffs and the landscape is flatter. They meet no resistance as the men ramble inland, through the scrub, setting camp at dusk. In the early morning, they wake abruptly. The enemy is approaching from the sea and falls upon them. Charlie has foolishly led his men behind enemy lines. He has just enough time to regret his mistake before he is shot in the head.

Charlie dies with a sense of grief and shame that remain when his soul reincarnates as the Spitfire pilot, Phil.

Although Phil is proud of his role in the war, he is impulsive, acting in ways that bring more shame. Before he qualified as a pilot, he abandoned a lovely young lady after making her pregnant.

Phil’s impulsive nature also gets him into trouble with the squadron leader. He takes unnecessary risks in battle. The squadron leader, fed up with his risk-taking, calls him ‘a dopey bastard’ and threatens to ground him permanently unless he is more temperate when flying his aeroplane. Phil vows to settle down and be more responsible.

Soon, Phil is back in battle. Despite his good intentions, the adrenalin takes over and he flies like a madman, shooting furiously at the enemy. Realising he has no real control over his impulsivity, he decides to die killing Germans. He takes ridiculous risks, shooting down many Messerschmitts, but miraculously doesn’t take a fatal hit himself. The squadron turns to fly back to base. Phil is certain he will be reported, stripped of his wings and disgraced. Impulsively he peels off, turning back towards the sea. He knows he will soon run out of fuel but he cannot face the squadron leader or his fellow pilots. He dies feeling ashamed at his cowardice.

Comparing his past lives with his current life, Warren realises he has learned from the mistakes he made as Charlie and Phil. In his current life, he has managed to keep much of his impulsivity under control. He married and had a family. Despite various temptations, he stayed faithful to his beautiful wife. Even though he made some risky financial investments that were costly, he managed to minimise the damage. He admits he can still be impulsive but he is keenly aware of this tendency and checks himself.

Warren’s past lives ended in a way that most would judge as devastating failures, but these misadventures have served Warren well. In each life, his purpose was to overcome his extreme impulsivity. He is succeeding. He is just taking a number of lifetimes to get it under control.

At the end of a life where our purpose was not fulfilled, we usually feel that our life was wasted. But death is not the end. We get to repeat our lessons as many times as needed. There is no judgment from those that guide us, only compassion and encouragement. We are our harshest judge.

NEXT: You might wonder why Warren needs his to get his impulsivity under control, and why Chelsea needs to see the darkness in others. What is the larger purpose of these individual life goals? I will address this question in my next post.

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