The Impact of Very Strict Fathers

The Impact of Very Strict Fathers

A few months ago, I wrote about absent fathers, Part 1 and Part 2. I was surprised at the comments I received, some by email. Some readers drew strength from the stories in those blogs.

No doubt absent fathers strongly affect their sons and daughters. These children yearn for the attention of a caring dad.

Strict fathers also affect their children, but in a different way. These children soon learn to fear their fathers and try to avoid them. As they approach adulthood, they just want to escape to find safety and freedom.

 This was the case with Lily. Lily’s father emigrated from a country in Asia which was suffering significant turmoil at the time. Asian dads tend to be strict anyway, but we learned during the regression that most of his hardness came from a recent difficult past life. Lily had no memory of him ever being affectionate. In fact, she felt very afraid of him.

The only way dad knew how to discipline us was through verbal threats. I remember him telling me “If you say that again I will cut out your tongue.” Once I went to the store and talked to a boy. He saw me and said,” If you do that again I will break your legs so you cannot walk.”

Lily had a number of physical conditions that her doctors told her were from stress. She had suffered depression, but her main concern was her skin. Since she was a child, she had abrasions on her body, mainly on her arms and legs. They were not there at birth and when they did appear, they would come and go in different spots. She came for a regression hoping to gain some insight into this problem.

At the beginning of the regression, Lily lives a past life as a woman. She and her husband live together in a primitive cabin. Their relationship is loving.

I am at the window of the kitchen, seeing a man outside. It seems like I know him. I get a friendly feeling.  He is waving. I am not afraid. It actually makes me want to smile. I am married to him. We have been together for a good while. I feel happy and peaceful.

 I keep seeing things on the wall like pots, spatulars and measuring cups. I cook for the family. I have a sense of of connection and peace.

I make sure she anchors these positive feelings of being peaceful, happy and safe so she can access them whenever she wants.

Next she finds herself in a barren place surrounded by huge volcanos. She feels unsafe and scared. I suspect this represents her fear as a child. I ask for help and her guide appears.

The guide has light skin and light sky-blue eyes. She is wearing a robe with a hood over her head.I feel she is very friendly as she holds out her hand. Her name is Angela.

Angela, the guide, takes Lily her back to the cabin, suggesting she access the comforting feelings of being in the cabin whenever she feels afraid.

Soon she is back with the volcanos. She becomes aware of the volcanos being like her father. I wonder out loud how her father really felt about her.

My guide just reminded me of a dream I had of my dad. It was after he passed away. He came to me and was actually holding me. I was sobbing and crying. I’d never felt like that before.

I ask about herself as a girl, suggesting she find out what her younger self needs.

I see myself as a young girl with pigtails, of maybe three years old. I am getting down to her level so I can see her eye to eye. I see fear in her eyes.

I mention how brave this little girl has been.

For some reason, I just picked her up and flew off. She is enjoying flying. I am showing her that the world is bigger and not as scary as it seems. I am actually taking her to the Godfathers Pizza Place. Dad used to look after me when I was sick and bring me my medicine. He was the one who always picked me up when I was ill at school. I had stomach problems. Then he would take me somewhere to eat like McDonalds or the Godfather’s Pizza Place. We are there with him now. Those are good memories.

Lily and I laugh, thinking about eating fast food when ill.

It didn’t matter. It helped. He was a bit softer during those times. I enjoyed being with him then.

Angela now takes Lily to another scene.

I am at my wedding and dad is walking me down the aisle. I am showing my little girl how happy and proud he is. (Lily laughs). He raises his hand so seriously, saying “I do” when the minister asks who gives me away.

Another memory comes. At 27, I had a heart operation. As I was wheeled into the theatre, he touched my toe affectionally and held onto it. (Laughing.) He didn’t know what else to do.

I received an award. Only four girls in the whole school were chosen. He had a bouquet of roses for me. Since he died, I remember having a lot of dreams of him showing me affection.

Lily begins to cry a little. I know she was afraid to cry as a child. I suggest she let herself soften and cry because she doesn’t want to be like her dad—afraid to be vulnerable. After crying a little more she speaks.

Angela is smiling.

We ask Angela about the abrasions on Lily’s arms.

Angela is taking me to the ocean, and I see a sunset. The sun is red orange. The waves are gentle, and the sand is warm. I feel that she tells me that the sea, sand and sun would help with my skin.

Now Angela is rubbing my arms in a very soothing way and putting primrose oil on them. I have been using it before, but I didn’t think it was working. She tells me she guided me to it, and it takes time to work. I need to trust it will help.

Our skin is what separates us from others and the rest of the world. Skin problems are about separation, either wanting to be separated or not wanting to be. Lily’s abrasions appear on the outside of her arms and legs, never on the inside. From that I deduce she intends to push someone away rather than bring them close. She wants separation from her father’s fierce threats. Even though he had died a decade ago, she was still carrying the fear her younger self felt.

From the regression, Lily receives what she needed. Her guide, Angela, took a her through a beautiful healing process which showed her adult self and child self that, in spite of his harsh discipline, her father loved her.

Interview with Karen Joy

Interview with Karen Joy

During the period of Covid-19 isolation, I was contacted by Simon G. Brown who hosts a well-known Pod Cast on Past Lives and Hypnosis.

Simon has interviewed people like  Eben Alexander, Rich Martini, Carol Bowman Mark Gober, Pim Van Lommel Mira Kelly and Bryn Blankinship.

Below is a link to the interview he did with me.

Simon contacted me because he had read my book, Other Lives, Other Realms.

Interview with Karen

by Simon G. Brown

What carries over from past lives?


Gabrielle was trapped in that timeless state of the stormy sea where she'd drowned.

Gabrielle was trapped in that timeless state of constantly fighting the stormy sea where she’d drowned.


Remember Karma, discussed in my previous post? Through my clients, I’ve learned that we are neither punished nor rewarded for our actions in past lives. At the same time, unresolved issues can flow from one life to another. Let’s look at some examples, drawn from my clients’ experience.


Adrianne is happily married to Erin. She came to me because her friendship with another woman was causing problems in her marriage. Erin sensed a level of obsession in the friendship, and was pressing Adrianne to end the relationship. This case is discussed in more detail in my book, Other Lives, Other Realms.

During regression, Adrianne returned to a life in which her friend had incarnated as her younger sister. Tragically, her sister died prematurely. Adrianne felt responsible for her sister’s death, and never recovered from the loss. She withdrew from her husband—who shared the same soul as Erin.

As Adrianne had never addressed the grief and guilt she felt after her sister died, her protective instincts were triggered when she met this woman in her current life. I helped Adrianne work through the emotions she had previously avoided, and she was able to bring the relationship with her friend to an appropriate conclusion.


Meredith was torn between her own needs, and meeting society’s expectations. During regression, I asked for her to be shown the origin of this conflict. She soon learned that the same battle had raged in her previous lives.

Meredith returned to a life as a healer, relying on herbal remedies and her psychic abilities. Unfortunately, she lived during the era of the Spanish Inquisition. She was tortured, and burned at the stake.

Her guide told her that she had experienced persecution in several lifetimes. Meredith was shocked that mass hysteria and religious extremism could lead to such cruelty. She also realised that the fear she felt in her current life had its genesis in the tortures she had endured centuries before.

Meredith and I began resolving this issue during her regression.


Gabrielle was afraid of water, especially seawater. Even standing ankle-deep on the beach, the undertow aroused strong feelings of anxiety. Yet she had no memory of any water-related trauma in her current life.

I regressed Gabrielle to her life as an adventurous teenaged girl. One calm evening she climbed into a boat, planning to row along the shoreline a little. Suddenly, a storm rose up, sweeping her out to sea. She panicked, and decided to swim back to the shore.

Unfortunately, the elements overwhelmed her. Even as the waves dragged her down, she kept struggling, trying to reach the safety of the shore. Although she drowned, part of her—the part that wanted to survive—refused to accept the fact. She remained trapped in the terrible reality she had created for herself, fighting constantly to keep her head above water.

Gabrielle remained trapped in that timeless state until she reincarnated in her current life—when she was given the opportunity to clear her fear of death by water for good.

Rescuing the dead

Gabrielle exemplifies the problem of a violent or unexpected death. If we were unable to accept the reality of our death, we can find ourselves trapped in a netherworld of perpetual resistance. However, we need not remain stuck. In my counselling and regression practices I have used hypnosis and other techniques to rescue hundreds of people from the purgatory they created for themselves.

My research and personal experience have convinced me that many of us are carrying emotional burdens created by the manner of our deaths in past lives. While these emotions are not apparent when we are reborn, they can easily be triggered.

For example, the first time Gabrielle dipped her feet into the ocean and felt the tide pulling at her ankles, her latent fears were triggered.

Meredith could have been triggered as a young child when her mother ignored her desires.

And Adrienne’s feelings of guilt and loss were triggered when she met the woman who shared the soul of her younger sister in a previous life. She could not let go then, and had trouble letting go in her current life as well.

Many of the challenges we face—not wanting to have children, a fear of commitment, fear of flying, unexplained anxiety, a compulsion to help others, health problems and addictions—echo the unresolved conflicts of our past lives.

These issues will keep resurfacing, in this life and in future lives, until we resolve them. In fact, we attract the situations that trigger these unresolved issues, and will keep doing so, until we can make our peace with them.

Once we have re-experienced the situation that gave birth to our negative emotions, released those feelings, and seen our problems from the perspective of multiple lifetimes, we find that the issue either melts away, or at least becomes easier to manage.

So why do we experience traumas that can take lifetimes to resolve? Good question. I’ll explore it in my next post!

Similarities  between a Near Death Experience and a Life Between Lives Regression

Similarities between a Near Death Experience and a Life Between Lives Regression

A typical Near Death Experience (NDE) is similar to a Life Between Lives Regression (LBL) but with some key differences.

To have a Near Death Experience, an individual has suffered a trauma so severe that he (or she) has physically died. The NDE takes place while the individual is “dead” and terminates suddenly when he is revived.

A Life Between Lives Regression is significantly different in a most important way. The individual chooses to undertake the regression. All through the experience, the individual is guided by an experienced hypnotherapist. There is no pain and no trauma. The Life Between Lives Regression takes place in a  context of serenity and security.

However apart from this key difference, there are many similarities between a Near Death Experience and a Life Between Lives Regression.

There are nine elements that have been identified as common in the Near Death Experience.

  1. Sound: The individual hears a buzzing or ringing noise while having a sense of being dead.
  2. Peace and Painlessness: Any pain the individual has experienced from the trauma disappears and he has a sense of peace.
  3. Out-of-Body-Experience: The individual senses that he has left the body and is floating above his physical body.
  4. The Tunnel: He feels he is being drawn into a tunnel usually quickly, until he sees a while light. Not everyone experiences a tunnel.
  5. No Tunnel Journey: He floats speedily upwards and can see the earth recede beneath him
  6. People of Light: He meets people who glow with light. Some are relatives or friends who have passed and who now greet him.
  7. Being of Light: The individual is greeted by a Being of Light. Some call this being God, Jesus or some other religious figure. He feels overwhelming love from this being.
  8. Life Review: The Being of Light shows him a review of his life. Most get the message that love is the most important thing in life.
  9. Reluctance to Return: The Being of Light tells him he must return but the love and peace are so profound most people return with great reluctance.

Researchers have found that people who experience a NDE are changed. Most change their priorities and value their relationships more than material things. Many are kinder and take on activities or work in order to help others. Nearly  all lose their fear of death.

In the LBL, the hypnotherapist guides the individual into a deep trance. During the induction most feel they are out of body and floating. A rare few hear a buzzing sound.

All people undertaking a LBL go through a death experience. This is because the hypnotherapist will guide them to a past life and at the end of that life they pass over. This death is not traumatic because the hypnotherapist makes sure the individual knows they are not alone and are safe and secure. After experiencing their death most have similar experiences to those who have a NDE.

The person having the LBL will float upwards. Some will see the earth recede. Some will go through a tunnel. Nearly all will see a white light coming towards them that turns into a Being of Light. This Being of Light is usually identified as their spiritual guide and often gives them his or her name.

Once the Spiritual Guide is encountered, the hypnotherapist takes a back seat and lets the Spiritual Guide do most of the directing. The hypnotherapist now asks questions in order to record the experience and get answers to the questions set beforehand. If the individual gets stuck or starts coming out of the trance, the hypnotherapist ensures the individual stays on track.

Most people experiencing a LBL meet relatives on the other side. These are usually part of their soul group. People experiencing a LBL feel a sense of overwhelming love. They do a life review but this is usually of the past life they re-experienced in the trance. They meet a Council of Elders who give them information about their past lives, their current life and their purpose. The Council also answers any questions they have.

There are other places on the other side that the individual can experience such as the body selection area, the place where they planned their current life, the library and even other planets. Usually they are guided by their Spirit Guide to go to places of benefit to them in their current life.

Unlike people experiencing an NDE, there is no reluctance in the LBL for the individual to return. The hypnotherapist ensures that the LBL is complete and the individual is ready to return before he or she is guided back to Planet Earth and the current life.

Anyone on the other side experiences a sense of timelessness. People who experience a NDE report that they lost all sense of time. This also happens in the LBL when the individual feels he has been away for minutes but is actually in the trance for hours. While in this state, the individual is fully focussed on what is emerging moment to moment, and in this sense, time does not exist.

There are many similarities between the Near Death Experience and a Life Between Lives Regression but there are some important differences.

The LBL is not associated with any physical trauma and is planned rather than spontaneous. The individual has the opportunity to have specific questions answered and explore selected places. The individual is guided by an experienced hypnotherapist from start to finish and only returns when he or she is ready.

Do We Have Past Lives?

Do We Have Past Lives?

No one can decide this question for you. You need to do the research and undertake experiences that help you decide.

There is no way of knowing absolutely if you have had past lives. However you can come to your own view through objective and subjective research

There is no way of knowing absolutely if you have had past lives. However you can come to your own view through objective and subjective research

When someone is regressed into a past life, they usually feel deeply connected to the character they are being in the past life. They say it “feels like it is me.” Even so, some people still wonder if they are just using their imagination and making it all up.

There is objective evidence for past lives.

The late Professor Ian Stevenson of the University of Virginia spent forty years systematically researching children who remember past lives. Professor Stevenson interviewed children who remembered their previous homes, their names and the names of their families. When these families were found, the children could easily identify who each member of the previous family was, and could give the family members’ correct names.

By the end of his career, Professor Stevenson had documented over 2,500 cases. Before he retired, he gave a lecture summarizing his work. Watch his thirty minute lecture below:

Dr Robert Almeder, a philosopher from Georgia State University, discovered Dr Stevenson’s work and checked his research. Dr Almeder found  that Dr Stevenson’s research was systematic and impeccable. He challenges the current practice of psychology to accept reincarnation as a genuine phenomenon. Watch Dr Almeder talk about this below:

The Monroe Institute was set up by Robert Monroe after he spontaneously started going out of body in the 1950s. He subjectively researched his experience and then started researching the experience of his subjects while in other states of consciousness. During Bob Monroe’s subjective research and his research at the institute, Bob discovered that humans experience many lives on planet Earth before moving on.  He and others have written a number of books about their out of body experiences. Watch below Bob being interviewed about his out of body experience not long after his first book, Journeys Out Of the Body, was published.

Dr Thomas Campbell, a physicist who works for NASA and the USA Defence Department, helped Bob with his research at the Monroe Institute . Even though Dr Campbell is a hard-nosed scientist and physicist, he wanted to learn to go out of body. He was determined to learn as much as he could about the nature of reality even if that included the esoteric.  Dr Campbell discovered that the universe is much larger, diverse and complex than most scientists had ever imagined. He developed his  theory of everything and wrote his book, My Big Toe (Theory of Everything). – in other words, his theory of the nature of our cosmic system. He has a number of lectures on YouTube including one explaining reincarnation. However you might find his ideas more easy to understand if you watch one of his entire lectures. He explains his ideas clearly and carefully so that the ordinary public can understand the nature of our universe. The talk he gave in 2010 at The Monroe Institute is particularly informative. Watch the first episode (0/12) of this talk below:

Dr Michael Newton, our mentor and founder, was a clinical psychologist who stumbled on past lives when he was regressing a client to the origin of her problem. He was amazed how effective accessing a past life was in resolving her psychological problems. Intrigued, he continued to research past lives and life between lives in great detail.  He has written two best sellers about what he discovered, Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls. Dr Newton explains below how he first came to research past lives and life in between lives:

Dr Brian Weiss, a psychiatrist, used age-regression, hypnotherapy techniques in his practice with clients. He also accidentally stumbled on past lives with a client. He saw how effective this process was and continued working with her exploring many lives. Dr Weiss wrote a book about that experience with his client, Katherine, called Many Lives Many Masters. It became a best seller and still is.

Watch Dr Weiss answer questions about reincarnation and past lives below:

To come to your own view about the existence of past lives, you need to do research, both objective and subjective. I have given you a number of links and references above that could be very helpful for your objective research. Your subjective research may include a Past Life Regression. If so we would be delighted to help.


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