When you signed up at one of the Spirit Festivals for my blog, I promised I wouldn’t post too much. As you might have noticed, I have kept this promise. I have hardly posted at all. A few people have noted this and suggested I do more posts. But before I started, I needed to think more deeply about why I haven’t been posting.
I am writing several books, some for a USA publisher on behalf of The Newton Institute and two that will be submitted under my own name. These books use client cases. Publishers require unpublished material. This has inhibited me from writing about cases in my blogs. I can use a case twice provided the words written are different. I take my commitments seriously so this means tracking all that is written. Possible, but time consuming and complicated.
So what should I be writing about in my blogs? What would people like to know? I have come up with a couple of ideas.
I have spent the last twenty-five years focussing on recovery, recovering the parts of myself lost in the struggle to survive, not just in this life but also in other lives. Shamans have a name for this process, “calling the spirit back.” The idea is to become whole. Interestingly the word “holy” comes from this concept. I make no claim to be enlightened but I am endeavouring to live an enlightened life, choosing to do my best to overcome many challenges. I thought I would share some of my journey with you.
From 1998 to 2008, I was a regular contributing writer for The Courier Mail, Queensland’s major newspaper. At the time, I was a private practising psychologist named Karen Nixon and I wrote from that perspective. Although I wrote feature articles from time to time, mostly I had a column where I answered client’s questions. This was fun. I enjoyed answering questions using my experience with my psychology clients, clients who taught me a great deal. Readers seemed to enjoy this approach too and I developed quite a following.
I wonder if you have any questions you would like answered. Past life and life between lives regressions give us much information about life and the Afterlife. I would like to share some of this wisdom with you, focussed on your needs and curiousity. All you need to do is ask. You can email me via the contact page on this website. When useful, I will still refer to client cases, with clients’ permission, of course. I am very fortunate that ninety-nine percent of clients give me permission to anonymously use their cases when they fill out their intake form.
These are my ideas about the content for my blog. I am interested in any ideas you have and anything you would like to know. Please comment below or contact me via my contact page if anything comes to mind. I would love you to share your thoughts and ideas.
If you are someone who hates injustice, you are likely to frequently see innocent people dying. Just turning on the news will do it.
You probably felt disturbed and much compassion towards the people trapped in Grenfell Tower in London as it burned. They died because the cladding on the building was unsafe, suggesting someone put profit ahead of people’s safety. Even if the culprits are punished it does not bring back the seventy-nine people who died.
If you look at a snippet of this tragedy, you are likely to feel angry. For example, one thirteen-year-old sent a text to her friend before being engulfed. ‘We are not going to make it. I love you.” You cannot easily feel at peace with this if you take the short view. This young girl lost her life just when it was about to really begin. How can you find justice in that?
We cannot know anything deeper about this girl, but we can look at what Newton Institute practitioners are finding all around the world as they take tens of thousands of people into their past lives and life between lives. They and their clients discover there are reasons why people die and have short lives. Here are some of those reasons:
People lose a loved one because they are learning how to deal with loss. For example, one woman lost her first child to a miscarriage. Then she lost her father to a heart attack not more than a year before losing her mother to cancer. She had dreams of losing her mother when she was much younger so that prepared her to some degree. Of all her losses, she coped best with the last. Because of the dream, she had made sure she cherished her mother while she was still alive. In the regression, she met her deceased parents and was told she was doing well with her life’s purpose, which was dealing with loss.
People lose loved ones to develop compassion. One client lost her child in a past life in the early nineteenth century. She was so devastated that she never recovered, shutting people out of her life. She had been shut down emotionally for many lifetimes, carrying a strong self-protective energy. The loss of her child opened her up emotionally. This shift carried over to her current life where she is gradually softening and learning to be more compassionate.
People also lose loved ones through suicide. In part, this can be about family members learning the lessons outlined above but more likely a person suicides because she or he is struggling with the demands of being physical in this hard school that is the Earth system. In the Afterlife, they can be exposed to the pain suffered by those they left behind. That can be enough to turn them away from suicide in a subsequent life. But some have a habit of leaving when the going gets tough. If this habit is not broken, next time they might get sick and die or have a fatal accident when life is difficult.
We have discovered some principles about death:
- No one dies without agreeing to their death, either at the soul level before they incarnated or at the physical level when they are incarnated.
- Once they have let go of physicality, death is beautiful. They feel relief, peace and happiness.
- Those who leave early to help others grow are having what we call a ’gift life.’ Their main purpose in that life is for others evolution, not their own.
- Loved ones pass but their love for us and our love for them is unchanged. In many ways, they are still with us.
Once you deeply understand that our lives and our deaths are purposeful, dealing with loss can be a little easier. You still need to grieve, but eventually you might be able to move past the shock and horror to see the larger perspective, accepting that there is order in our universe. Nothing happens without a reason.
Many people, all around the world are reeling, from the outcome of the American election. My colleagues, many of them spiritually focussed, hoped Hillary would win. Now many are struggling to understand the outcome.
Many spiritually minded people hold the belief that we are coming into a new consciousness which encompass the feminine energies of inclusion, acceptance, respect, positive renewal and care for others. If this is the case, why did Trump win?
Life-Between-Lives regressions give us a great deal of information about how our system works. Here are some points to consider and a number of possible reasons why Trump is now president-elect.
- Our universe is expanding. We know this scientifically, and in the regressions this is often confirmed, but with a slightly different emphasis. The universe is expanding because humans are expanding in experience. The Higher Level beings that look out for us want us to continue expanding our experience. How do you expand in experience? You have experiences that you have never had before. Is a Trump presidency likely to be different and novel? Given that politicians and commentators say they don’t really know what to expect, the answer is yes. So a Trump presidency creates more novel experience and more expansion.
- Humans have free will. Having free will means we can receive or ignore any specific information. We can look at situations with a positive focus or a negative view. Our free will is absolute.
- We create our reality. Our thoughts and actions create a vibration that we send out and what we send out comes back to us. Our negative views also come back to us too. If I suggest to you right now, ‘Don’t think of blue,’ you couldn’t help but think of blue. Do this often enough and universe sends you blue. So what happens if many millions of people think, ‘I don’t want Trump’ along with many who think ‘I do want Trump’? In fact, all are creating together, inadvertently or not, to get Trump.
- Our lives are planned. You can follow the plan or you can ignore it. Many people coming to undertake a Life-Between-Lives regression do so in order to discover if they are on track with their plan. If you are in alignment with your plan, you will mostly feel comfortable, joyful and inspired. If you are not, you will often feel unhappy, irritable, anxious, depressed or ill. Whether you resist your plan or not, you will eventually gain the experience and knowledge you are after, whether that takes one lifetime or a thousand.
- Planet Earth is also subject to a plan. The plan will be fulfilled even if a few detours are taken off the main road. In any case, no detour is wrong. A detour is experience and experience is expansion. In our universe there is no such thing as waste. All experience is valuable.
Is a Trump presidency a detour or is it part of the plan?
Let’s assess this in light of the previous points.
Novel experiences expand our universe. A Trump presidency is a new experience for all of us. So that means it is likely to be part of the plan.
We individually and collectively create our reality. We all created a Trump presidency with our focus on wanting it or not wanting it. A Trump presidency is therefore in alignment with the level of our collective spiritual development. Whatever happens we are likely to grow in awareness, individually and collectively. So that probably means it is part of the plan.
Trump himself seems to be aligned with his life plan. He is physically well, energetic, personally positive and happy. He has spent his life totally believing in himself and his ability to win, so much so that what most of us have termed losses, he sees as wins. He is the perfect model of the power of belief in creating one’s reality. Each of our plans form part of the larger plan for our planet. So if Trump is aligned with his life plan than his presidency is also part of the plan.
Many of us spiritually minded people believe that we are coming into a new consciousness. Having a Trump presidency does not deny this. The tolerance of difference and minorities expanded dramatically after the horror of discrimination practiced in Nazi Germany.
I don’t believe we will stoop to those depths again, but good things can come out of challenging experiences. We can see how the feminine energies of inclusion, acceptance, respect, positive renewal and care for others are emerging in our world. This emergence sometimes comes from the rejection of horror observed in well publicised attacks, rapes, murders and incidents of domestic violence. The change is happening. Trump is sure to be a part of that change.
If you were concerned about what a Trump presidency will bring, I suggest you relax and take a positive view, remaining open and curious.
Perhaps you would like to take a leaf out of Trump’s book and create your own positive reality. To do so, take control of your thoughts and actions. If you have trouble doing that, seek help to release your fears, your negative thinking and get back on track.
Here is a link to recordings by Esther Hicks, channelling Abraham, about creating your reality. The information Abraham gives is the same as that channelled through certain advanced souls during their Life-Between-Lives regressions.
Abraham on creating your reality
As I explained in my previous post, trauma from a previous life can manifest in a current life. After my clients have released the emotional energy carried over from a past life trauma, they often wonder why they had to experience such traumatic events in the first place. What value can we gain from such painful experiences?
Dechen’s story, detailed in my book, Other Lives, Other Realms, shows how a trauma can affect us across multiple lifetimes. As a sixteen-year-old girl named Lesandra, Deschen died terribly many centuries ago.
Lesandra shared a dirt-floored hut in rural England with her father and her sister. She felt exhausted after working all day in their small vegetable plot. Arriving home at dusk, she lay down to rest. Her younger sister began preparing the evening meal, intending to have it ready when their father returned.
Lesandra’s sister watched over a pot strung over an open fire, near Lesandra’s bed. Suddenly, the oil flared up. As the fire erupted, her sister panicked, and rushed out of the hut. Lesandra woke to a raging fire. Trapped behind the flames, she burned to death before she could find the door.
The fear from this death carried over into Dechen’s current life. As a doctor, she faced many life and death incidents. Some of these triggered debilitating anxiety. During the regression, Dechen re-experienced this past life, accepted the death and passed over peacefully. Afterwards, she noticed that her anxiety had disappeared.
Like many other clients, Dechen wondered why she experienced such a painful death.
During a life-between-lives regression, clients are given the opportunity to question the ‘Council of Elders.’ The Council is made up of wise beings who know us better than we know ourselves. They offer us their gentle wisdom.
I have noticed that clients are given the same answer whenever they ask why they have faced certain challenges. Which is? ‘You chose it.’
You may wonder how you can choose something before you were born. In the regression, you discover that you are much, much more than your physical body. Your greater self, or soul self, chose to be born. It chose to experience your past lives and your current life.
When we are born, we forget the choices we made during our life-between-lives. Indeed, some of the decisions we made then may seem inexplicable now. Why would we choose to experience a traumatic death? Why choose to be persecuted and tortured?
The Council explains. ‘To be whole, to complete your journey as a human on Earth, you need to experience life from all human perspectives. You need to know what it is like to kill, persecute and torture, just as you need to know what it is like to be killed, persecuted and tortured. You need to know what it is like to be fat, crippled and ill, as well as strong, healthy and beautiful.’
While this may seem perverse to us, the Council’s reasoning makes perfect sense. Sharing in every aspect of the human experience allows us to develop genuine compassion. We reach the point where we know that our only real choice is to love and accept every individual, just as they are. Once we know how painful it is to feel disconnected from love, to feel disconnected from our true self, we lose the ability to judge others.
Of course, there are times when judgment seems like a natural reaction to the worst excesses of human behavior—the callousness of terrorists, for example. But terrorists have cut themselves off from love. They have separated from their higher selves. Their hearts are set like stone. Remembering the pain of our past lives when we were disconnected, when our hearts weighed like granite in our chests, we soften, and feel compassion. There can be no happy ending for terrorists. They will suffer and struggle over countless lifetimes, acting out their anger and resentment. The pain their actions cause will spill over from lifetime to lifetime, until they gain sufficient insight to renounce and release their self-hatred, and choose instead to reconnect to love.
If our higher self chooses how we will be born and what we will experience, what level of free will do we humans have? I will address this question in my next blog.
Integrating the information you receive in your life between lives regression is an essential pre-requisite to having a life-changing experience.
Many clients describe the experience of their life between lives regression as life changing. Why exactly do they make this claim?
I decided to go through the notes of the clients I regressed one year to see if I could find any patterns in their experience.
I discovered that clients who were willing to open up to new possibilities and challenge their beliefs seemed to gain the most in terms of life changes. However there is a caveat to achieving this outcome that I will discuss later.
Some of the clients who appeared the most changed were quite challenged by the life between lives regression. They resisted some of the information flowing to them during the trance. I had to work hard to keep them focussed and accepting.
One sceptical person I will call George laughed loudly when the Council of Elders appeared in a stereotypical way. He described the Council members as wearing robes while sitting on cushions that were floating in a pond. A waterfall was gently falling behind them and there was angelic music playing. George thought this was esoterically kitsch and said “just what you’d expect if you believed in that stuff.” From time to time, this cynicism had him emerging from the trance. I had to keep reminding him to view it as just imagination and to simply enjoy the ride.
In spite of his cynicism, George experienced a profound change from his life between lives regression. During the regression he felt the love of his estranged mother who spontaneously came to him. He was advised to be more careful in his judgements in the future. His tendency to jump to conclusions had caused the damage in his relationship with his mother.
The experience of his mother’s love was with George as he emerged from the trance. This sense of love stayed with him and, months later, he said it had changed him. He is now more relaxed, more positive, more confident in life, more open to new challenges and possibilities and more loving.
George’s description of how he changed is similar to that of other clients. There is a fundamental shift in the way they see the world. They transcend some of their fears and pessimism.
One client, Rita, was greatly resistant when told by her guide that she had chosen her body before she arrived on earth. Rita didn’t like the way she looked and she couldn’t imagine anyone choosing a body like hers. When, in the trance, we arrived at the opportunity of exploring this choice, Rita hesitated. She was struggling to accept that she had, as her greater self, made this choice.
I called on the Council to help and they gave her the courage she needed to move forward. Rita discovered there were important reasons for the choice of her body.
After the regression, Rita was not able to hold this new understanding. Rita had spent most of her life hating her body. Accepting responsibility for her body was too confronting.
Some months after the regression, we met. We discussed the previous regression. Rita had forgotten significant realizations. I encouraged her to listen to the recording and gave her some notes.
She rang me a few weeks later. The new view had taken hold. She was much happier and more at peace with herself, and undertaking new adventures.
The need to integrate the information gained in the regression is the caveat that I spoke of earlier. Life changes only happen if the learnings become a part of you as a physical being. The new information has to be accepted and integrated into your belief system.
The more willing you are to be challenged, during the regression and afterwards, the more likely you are to experience profound, beneficial change.
I strongly recommend fully utilising your investment in a regression by listening to the regression recording. The more often you do this the better. You re-experience most of what you felt and understood during the regression and gradually you change to be more of your true self.
The process of Life Between Lives Regression takes the individual back in time, so to speak. He or she passes through the current life, back to experiences depicted as the immediate past life. After a brief exploration of the past life, the individual passes safely through the death experience and into the realm between lives.
Much is able to be explored here including the relationship between the past life and the current life. Individuals are usually working on specific themes in each life and this can be revealed. Relationships with loved ones and enemies are able to be better understood. Guidance about one’s future path is often available as well, although it might be expressed generally rather than outline any specific events.
Although it seems the focus is in the past, this is not actually true. Ultimately the spiritual regression is happening in present time but present time informed by ones past experiences. Some clients describe this as being bi-located. They are in the life between life state and, at the same time, they are aware of having a human body.
Some, however, are completely immersed in the LBL experience and are almost shocked to return, feeling again the heaviness of being human.
The Life Between Life process assumes the existence of past lives and a plan for our current lives. There is no way of knowing if what an individual experiences is objectively true. There is no way of knowing if the scenarios are real in an objective sense or if they are simply imagined. However this does not seem to matter. Sometimes an individual receives information that makes so much sense, they accept it as truth. In fact, most people who undertake this process have such a profound and enlightening experience that they tend to trust the guidance obtained about their life, their purpose and whether they are heading in the right direction.
Ultimately each individual needs to make up their own mind about the veracity of their experience. The only requirement for a successful Past Life regression or Life Between Lives regression is a genuinely open mind.
The Live Between Life process is not therapy and it is not intended to heal trauma. The exploration undertaken can make new connections for the individual and create a greater understanding of why they have encountered various life experiences. Sometimes this knowledge is therapeutic however it is important to realize that the Life Between Lives Regression is a positive process designed to gather information and understanding so individuals make future decisions that serve their highest good and the highest good of all.