Past lives help create balance when we discover the messages they represent. To create balance in our lives, we need to remove obsolete beliefs and reactions that are blocking us. Some of those come from our past lives. The following case is an example.

Emily was at a crossroads. Recently she was handicapped for six months, spending most of her time in bed and hardly able to do anything. She watched as her husband and young adult children did the minimum required to ensure their personal survival, virtually ignoring her needs. She also realised that she’d been unhappy for a long time but had been too busy to even think about it, let alone act on it.

Emily had taken such good care of her family, none of them hadn’t even noticed. They had completely taken her for granted. She was ready for a change and wanted to feel valued. But she felt guilty as she thought about leaving and looking after herself, Several beliefs were holding her back.

After resolving some issues from her family of origin, she recalled two past lives.

First past life learning: the importance of family

In the first, she was a young German boy, Jeffrey, aged 4 or 5, who was lost. His family had been killed. He was taken in by a loving couple who bought him up. Eventually Jeffrey joined the navy, wanting to change the world to stop war and killing.

In one scene he was at the bedside of his dear foster father who was dying. He felt much love for this kind old man. As he relived this past moment, he realised how grateful he was. Consequently, he understood the message being given to him. Our family is much more important than any futile idea of trying to change the world.

Emily could see that she had applied that philosophy to her current life, focussing almost exclusively on the members of her family. The next life showed her what she had missed.

Second past life: the importance of freedom

In this past life in the 1920’s, she was a young woman, Ann, whose focus was on having fun, being free and outspoken, and generally pushing the boundaries. This was not socially accepted at that time, and she was killed by disapproving men in suits. Emily summed up Ann’s life.

“She wouldn’t have changed it. She really did enjoy her life before she died. It was a short fun life instead of a life of slavery.”

Both Ann and Emily lived lives that were out of balance. Two extremes of the spectrum of freedom at one end and over responsibility at the other. In other words, care only for others at one extreme and, at the other, lack of care for oneself. In the second life, Ann had focussed on herself while forgetting about anyone else. Emily focussed on others while forgetting about herself.

I asked Emily to communicate with Ann and ask Ann what she thought of Emily’s current situation. Emily shared what she received.

“Ann doesn’t really regret her life, but she is thinking if she toned it down a bit, she might have influenced more people for longer.”

Past Lives help create balance

Emily could see what each past life had taught her something important. Now she had an opportunity to combine these understandings to find balance between her needs and the needs of others. She also received the message that she would be “a more loving, authentic, compassionate, and supportive person” to her family and others if she moved to new environment where she could take care of her own needs.

Emily acted on the advice of her guides. Subsequently, she moved into a small apartment for some months which forced her family to take stock of how much she’d been doing. When she returned, she didn’t do as much for them as she did before. In truth, her care and attention was no longer serving them. She needed to let them stand on their two feet and make their own way in the world. As well, she learnt how to care for her own needs. This was important. Because of the message from her guides, she let go of any guilty feelings about caring for others.

Emily’s case shows us how we learn from our past lives, swinging the pendulum from one extreme in one life to the other extreme in a different life. A time comes when we have the opportunity to learn the lesson and find balance.

Each life is a learning. It takes many lives of experience before we can refine our learnings into wisdom. Accessing our past lives can help us do that. When wise, we are more able to choose optimal actions for each circumstance. That is how we can create the balanced life that we desire.

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